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MEET FEATURED MOM DARLINE TURNER

By February 5, 2016 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Uncategorized
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Name:
 Darline Turner

Age: 49

State of residence: Texas

Children and ages: 12 year old daughter and an 8 year old son

Current or former profession(s): Women’s Health Coach (Currently), Nationally Certified Physician Assistant (Not currently working clinically); Owner and Founder of Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond  www.mamasonbedrest.com

PREGNANCY

How long were you trying to get pregnant? 

I could get pregnant pretty easily, but I would miscarry early on before 12 weeks. Started in 2001, had first miscarriage and myomectomy to remove uterine fibroids. I had my daughter in 2002 at age 37 and my son in 2006 (after a second miscarriage in 2004) age 40.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

I was put on progesterone suppositories at ovulation because it was discovered that I had a luteal phase defect and my uterine lining was not developing enough to support the pregnancies.

SUPPORT

The Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

They were supportive of the pregnancy, but not of me or my life in particular. Being older and high risk, I don’t feel they really took to heart the emotional toll it took on me, especially since I was without family or support in the immediate area.

I felt left to my own devices to get the help and support I needed. That is why I started Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond. I wanted to be the support I wish I had had; i.e. help around the house, help with my daughter (second pregnancy) and emotional support.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

No. My OB and her practice were overall very good and very good with dealing with women with my types of medical complications. I opted for the technical expertise over the emotional intelligence.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy? 

My family was supportive, but cautious. I was pregnant with my son and turned 40 during the pregnancy. Having had a miscarriage, surgery to remove uterine fibroids prior to having my daughter, and then a second miscarriage, we all kind of held our collective breaths while I carried my son. Ironically, it was the easiest journey of my entire reproductive life!

LABOR AND DELIVERY

What do you remember most about the birth experience? 

Well, I hemorrhaged after having my daughter. Initially, she did not cry when she first was lifted out of me (c-section) and I was moving and squirming trying to see her. She finally cried and then was whisked out of the surgical delivery suite to the nursery. She had fluid on her lung and they needed to “work on her breathing”.

Meanwhile, I was bleeding and throwing up and my OB’s partner (who delivered in my OB’s absence since I was 3 weeks early) worked diligently to stimulate my very “boggy and non- contracting uterus” and to stop the bleeding and stitch me up while the anesthesiologist gave me something to stop the vomiting and calm me down. I was pretty upset that they took my daughter and I really didn’t get to see or hold her!

I remember there was a lot of hustle and bustle as instrument packs were opened and everyone prepped to work on me. My husband had left to go with my daughter and I remember thinking what a horrible joke it would be if after everything I went through, I didn’t live to see/hold my daughter! I was really upset. For a time, every time the OB stitched, blood shot up like Old Faithful. But she was very focused and skilled and after about 45 minutes, I was all stitched up. It was 12 hours before I held my daughter and that was as she was on her way up to the NICU.

My son’s birth was the polar opposite. Since my husband was less than useless during my daughter’s delivery, I asked my sister to be with me in the delivery room. My son was born at 39 weeks via C-section. My OB delivered him and it was a nearly perfect C-section except the anesthesiologist missed while giving the epidural and initially only numbed my left side.

It also really hurt and I broke out into a sweat, started shaking and nearly fainted.

However, once they got the epidural properly administered, the delivery occurred without a problem. My son came out with the most hilarious expression on his face as if to say, “Are you freaking kidding me? It’s cold a stink out her!” He then looked at each one of us and then let out a wail! Dr. Swenson the held him up by his legs, something about letting the fluid out of his lungs and he proceeded to pee around the entire delivery room.

When My OB went to stitch me up, that bleeding thing wanted to start up, so she had my son put to my breast and he nursed like a champ! Meanwhile, his nursing stimulated my uterus to contract and the bleeding was averted. While this delivery went much more smoothly, I had a much harder recovery. Nursing really made my C-section incision hurt and my back hurt for months after the delivery-about 6 months to be exact! Even now, almost 9 years later, on very rare occasions when I’m tired or have done a vigorous workout, I can feel EXACTLY where I had that epidural.

 I’M A MOM!Darline T

What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

Nothing really. For me, the problem was getting the kids here. Once I had them, I had no concerns whatsoever about raising them.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I think I’m much smarter. I didn’t worry about having the latest and greatest baby items. I was really clear about how I was going to do motherhood, so I didn’t get sucked up into the commercial/retail craze. Also, being a Physician Assistant, I don’t sweat colds and such. My kids are super healthy and each have had only one ear infection. I’m also much more savvy about their development and behaviors. I don’t sweat things that they do nearly as much as I would if I were a younger mom. Having practiced clinically for 8 years before becoming pregnant really gave me a level of knowledge and comfort I never would have had had I had children younger. I honestly feel I had my kids at the perfect age.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I let go of a lot of superfluousness! Being single or even a newlywed, I worried about a lot of truly inconsequential things. Once I had kids, I could see a lot of that fluff for just what it was-superfluous fluff! I let it go. I gained a lot of wisdom and perspective having my kids.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

If you really want to do it, DO IT!! Don’t let people scare you with all sorts of statistics and “advanced maternal age” stuff. If you are healthy and there are no contraindications to you having children, go for it! Just realize that you may encounter a few more complications, but most are easily resolved. Take good care of yourself and you and your baby will most likely be fine!!

Additional comments?

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I truly believe that if you are meant to have children, you will. I say this because I have a cousin who had a baby at age 52, completely healthy, after having and losing a son at 18 to Sickle Cell Anemia. My little cousin was destined to come and come she did! If you really feel in your heart you are to have children, go for it! You wouldn’t have the desire if it wasn’t for you!

InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Darlene for sharing her story! (Download my quick-read guide offering 30+ POSITIVE tips to cope while trying to conceive (after age 35) in your 40s https://gumroad.com/l/hfaIs )

MEET FEATURED MOM LISA

By January 8, 2016 Blog, Featured Moms, Uncategorized
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Name:
 Lisa

Age when you gave birth:  43

State of residence:  London, England

Child’s name and age: Alexander, son, 2.5 years

Current or former profession(s): currently blogging at www.thestylopedia.com, previously a banker

PREGNANCY

How long were you trying to get pregnant?

One year

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

After three miscarriages (all due to chromosomal issues), I went through one cycle of IVF to try to screen out any eggs that were not viable.  Luckily, it worked the first time.

SUPPORT

 Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

Extremely, although one scanner did use the term “Geriatric Maternal Age” on my form, which horrified me!

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

No, my medical care was superb.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

All of them were overjoyed.  I sort of did everything fashionably late in life; I only got married at forty, so having a baby at forty three seemed very natural to me.  It was now or never!

LABOR and DELIVERY

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I had a cesarean, but because my son was covered in such a thick layer of slippery vernix, the doctor still had to use forceps to get him out.  My son howled loudly of course, but the second they placed him on my chest, he went completely silent.  I was stunned at the power of our immediate connection with each other.  My entire life and my priorities completely shifted in that one second; it really changed me.  That exact second is when I became a mother.

I AM MOM!

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What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

I want to be vibrant and healthy and be a part of my son’s life for as long as possible of course. So I eat very healthy and I go to the gym four times a week.   I take extra care of my health. I probably wouldn’t take such extra care if I weren’t a mother over 35.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

Because I had my career first, I have the time to really focus on my son.  I’ve had a life full of travel and intensive work, so it feels like a luxury to look after my son, rather than a chore.  I have the maturity to enjoy the ‘moments’ instead of trying to juggle too much.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I was never a worrier, but I am now!  I don’t second-guess my decisions concerning his well-being; I really listen to my gut and I know the right things to do for him.  I didn’t know that kind of mothering was innate in me, but it definitely is.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Nutrition is absolutely everything; it is the foundation of your health and of your baby’s health.  If you want to create another body, you have to make sure yours is as healthy and nourished as possible.   After several miscarriages, I also did a lot of meditation in my pregnancy to stay relaxed and stress-free instead of worrying about another unpreventable miscarriage.

InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Lisa for sharing her story! (Download my quick-read guide offering 30+ POSITIVE tips to cope while trying to conceive (after age 35) in your 40s https://gumroad.com/l/hfaIs )

 

Happy 2016!

By December 31, 2015 Blog, Uncategorized

Sending warm hugs and love for your 2016! CynBirthdayThank you for helping me to spread the InSeason Mom message ( throughout the years) of support for first time moms over 35 and 40. Thank you for allowing me to dispel misconceptions about first time moms over 35.

Thank you for allowing me to share the stories of women over 35 who gave birth to their first or second baby. Thank you for allowing me to share the stories of 40-something- year- old women who conceived naturally and gave birth, after being told by arrogant doctors that they will never have babies. Thank you for allowing me to share the stories of women over 35 who had successful pregnancies through IVF, proving that faith and medicine can work together! Thank you for allowing me to bring you the stories of women who did not have any complications conceiving and giving birth after age 40.

Thank you for allowing me to share my belief in each of these Featured Mom stories that “There is a Power greater than circumstances. There is Hope. There is God.”

I plan to continue bringing you stories of Featured Moms and to introduce you to advertisers/sponsors that I believe are aligned with our InSeason Mom message.

Hugs and Blessings!

Cynthia

FREE PreGender Tests From World’s First and Only Family Balancing Program!

By December 11, 2015 Blog, Uncategorized

In this sponsored post, you’ll learn about what is called the “world’s first and only balancing program,”a proven scientific and natural way to conceive a baby boy or girl.

PreGender Preconception Test

 

UPDATE: Dr. Kuldeep Verma has announced that three (3) couples will be offered totally free PreGender tests! This offer does not include FirstGender test. The couples must agree to display their test results on www.inseasonmom.org  as well as http://www.urobiologics.com/, under a separate heading or simply in the comment section of this post. The couples must provide a private email address without disclosing their true name and proposed name of the baby as shown in live charts at http://www.urobiologics.com/

Couples do not have to be 35+ to participate. This FREE PreGender Tests Giveaway ends on Friday, January 22, 2016 at 12pm (EST) and no purchase is necessary to participate. For an opportunity to be selected as one of the three winning couples, please email inseasonmom@gmail.com. In the subject of your email, please put “FREE PREGENDER TEST.”

INSEASON MOM MEETS DR. VERMA

When I read Dr. Kuldeep Verma’s supportive natural conception comments on Meet Featured Mom Joan, I knew he was an innovative thinker. What I didn’t know was that Dr. Verma, founder of Gender Specific Natural Conception, and his team at Urobiologics LLC had discovered a new natural way to conceive a baby boy or girl.

They’ve been working since 1982 on the idea that women must have a role in the formation of the gender of her baby and that the man’s sperm need not be responsible for doing everything.

This certainly is contrary to everything I’ve been taught about reproduction.  I welcome this enlightenment and compare it to discovering healthy women in their 40s can conceive naturally.

His research yielded fascinating findings such as:

  1. Women have alternating gender specific menstrual cycles. One cycle is good for conceiving a boy, the next for a girl.
  1. Just like women stop menstruating after conception, they stop alternating as well, as long as the baby is there.
  1. It is the hormonal environment of the uterus that appears to have the power of sort and select X & Y chromosome bearing sperms.

CHOOSE YOUR BABY’S GENDER NATURALLY

Dr. Verma and Urobiologics LLC developed a new scientific method to plan the gender of your baby before pregnancy as well as to evaluate the gender of the baby immediately after confirmation of pregnancy.

This is done with one of two services. They are PreGender Preconception Test and FirstGender Post-conception Test. Both are 100% natural, safe, simple urine-based tests. The technology behind PreGender Preconception Test and FirstGender Post-conception Test is covered by two US patents and worldwide patents are pending.

“Right now PreGender Preconception program is almost guaranteeing a couple to get the baby they want,” said Dr. Verma. “The details are on the website. To show the power of this concept, we are asking couples to name the baby even before ordering our service.

We also encourage them to take part in our live charts where we display all the test results in advance. No other gender selection company can dare do this.”

TOO MANY (INSERT GENDER) BABIES IN YOUR FAMILY  

“The whole program is a blessing to couples with multiple babies of the same gender,” said Dr. Verma. “ According to our experience with around 40,000 families, if a couple has say, two daughters, they normally think the third baby would definitely be a boy and leave everything to chance or use various gimmicks like gender diets or douching ‘to sway’.

That is a wrong notion because in some women the hormonal pattern is skewed toward an easier conception in a girl cycle. PreGender test is the only way to get a boy if they try in boy cycle and avoid in girl one. The same is true for families with more boys. This is the reason there are couples with 13 boys or 15 girls because they continued on their own just on a hope that the next baby would be of opposite gender.”

 HOW THE PROGRAM WORKS

  “Before entering the PreGender Preconception testing program, the customer picks a proposed name of the planned baby. She, the customer, can begin gender planning process by simply collecting urine samples for two consequent cycles as shown under PreGender test at www.urobiologics.com and shipping to us in Livonia MI USA,” said Dr. Verma. “After testing, we’ll guide the couple in which cycle to conceive to get the baby they want.

If she gets pregnant, she immediately collects urine samples for our FirstGender Post-conception test. There’s 92% chance we will include the name of the baby in that report.

If there’s no conception, she must skip the next cycle. No additional testing is needed for at least six months. Conception effort is done by couples themselves or through IUI / IVF. We continue emailing the customer appropriate conception plan in every proper cycle till she conceives, without any additional cost. No medication or gender diet is suggested and nothing else is sold. Shipping urine samples across international borders is legal and the samples stay good during transport for our purposes.”

Below is a visual of the process in detail. The last visual shows the role alternating hormonal environment plays:

Example Boy

 

Example Girl

Alt Hormonal Env

Thank you Dr. Verma and your team at Urobiologics LLC for helping couples—naturally and scientifically— achieve their family dreams!

MEET FEATURED MOM JOAN

By December 2, 2015 Blog, Featured Moms
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Name:  Joan

Age when you gave birth:  Less than a week from 39 years old

State of residence:  Michigan

Child’s age:   2-year-old son

Current or former profession(s):  Purchasing

Pregnancy

How long were you trying to get pregnant?

About 2 years

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

Progesterone, tried to eat healthy consistently and work out regularly.  I drove myself nuts with charting, temping, etc. but it was all helpful in that I learned a LOT more about the human body than I’d ever thought I would!

Support 

Medical

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

They weren’t – I went to 3 different fertility specialists (one who had been my own GYN for over 10 years)

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors?

I changed doctors because I was basically told – by all 3, including my regular GYN – that I would pretty much need “medical intervention” (i.e. IVF) in order to even get pregnant, let alone have a successful birth.  I felt like they were just trying to fill their pocketbooks.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

They were all thrilled – many of my friends prayed with me, so they knew this was a big blessing for us!

We had miscarried after trying for months to get pregnant, so when we got pregnant again “just” 4 months later (the week of Thanksgiving) as excited as we were, we didn’t say anything at first.  I told my mom on Christmas (at 8 weeks) only because I was already getting a bit of a belly.  My mom cried tears of joy – because I’m her baby and I was having a baby :).  And then I got knowing glances from my co-workers, but we didn’t confirm suspicions of co-workers and friends until we were in the 2nd trimester (end of January).

Labor and delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

It was LONG.  I had every intention of having a natural birth if at all possible – we even hired a doula.  But at about my 35th week my blood pressure was getting dangerously high and I had to have weekly ultrasounds, and then I wound up having to have my son about 2 weeks early.  And he was NOT ready to come out.  I labored without drugs for about 21 hours – using a medicine ball and my doula massaging my back and helping me be as comfortable as possible when you’re in labor –  and despite my best efforts, and as stubborn as I am, I finally just realized I needed a little “help.”  Then one of the residents broke my water and I knew I was on the clock then.  I wound up having a C-section.

I AM MOM!

What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

Just having energy and prioritizing when I have a full-time career as well; I try to schedule everything and my weekends are for my family!

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

That I’m where I need to be.  For me, getting married later and being an “older” mom is perfect timing for me.  When I was younger, a friend of mine would lament about not being married or having kids yet when everyone else around us was – and I said, “All on YOUR timetable.”    I am greatly enjoying the new kind of fun my son brings into my life.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I honestly did not know if motherhood was for me.  But it’s the best kind of love there is in this world.  My husband and I know our son is truly a blessing, especially considering our challenges to have him.   I’m definitely more patient!

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?  

Have faith.  Have faith in what your body can do.  I was told I had blocked tubes and endometriosis and low progesterone, etc.  but I refused to believe I was already “too old” to have a baby naturally.  Also, educate yourself.  If I wasn’t stubborn, I would have just stopped at “well, we can’t have a baby unless we do IVF.”  I did research on my own, modified my and my husband’s diets, and that helped a lot!  Have a doctor/birthing team who has your best interests in mind!

Any additional comments?

Be flexible – know that things may not go according to plan.  Work with your birthing team to find what works for you, but know that you may need to be open-minded.

InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Joan for sharing her story! Download my quick-read guide offering 30+ POSITIVE tips to cope while trying to conceive (after age 35) in your 40s https://gumroad.com/l/hfaIs

 

Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips

By November 19, 2015 Getting Pregnant After 35 and 40, Popular Posts
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-No depressing medical jargon or statistics

-Written by InSeason Mom Founder who conceived naturally and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to healthy babies

-Get your copy and starting using these tips now  https://gumroad.com/l/hfaIs