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Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips ebook

By January 6, 2018 Uncategorized

 Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips ebook

  • Quick read resource without all the depressing medical jargon or statistics
  • Over 30 practical spiritual, mental and physical coping tips that you can use now
  • Written by InSeason Mom Founder Cynthia, who conceived naturally and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to two healthy babies
  • Many books offer suggestions on getting pregnant after 35 but this e-book provides encouragement while you waiting

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Sherry’s Pregnancy Over 35 Success After Miscarriages

By March 4, 2018 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

This Indiana mom is as vocal about her faith as she is about her two successful pregnancies over age 35 and her miscarriages. Pictured  above with daughters, meet our Featured First Time Mom Over 35 as she shares her faith-filled pregnancy and birth journey, which included a healthy diet and medication.

Name: Sherry

Age you gave birth: I was 36 with my first baby, and 40 with my second one.

State/Country of residence: Indiana

Children’s names and ages: Faith is now 5, and Josephine is almost 2!

Current or former profession(s): Mom blogger at


How long were you trying to get pregnant? 

We naturally conceived 3 months after getting married.  With our second baby, we were trying for two years and needed help with fertility medication.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

I didn’t do anything but pray for our first daughter, Faith.  For Josephine, lots and lots more prayer. I ate healthier, and stopped drinking coffee.  I eventually had to take medication to force ovulation, scheduled intercourse and conceived!  Before conceiving with Josephine, we had two miscarriages.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctors were all very supportive!  They weren’t concerned about my age. They took good care of me, and kept me informed of any potential risks during pregnancy or health issues with our babies.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I never considered switching doctors. I felt very safe under their care. I was fortunate enough to have the same physician deliver both our daughters!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?  Extremely excited and grateful to God that our prayers were being answered.


What do you remember most about the birth experience?

My first birth was 31 hours long!  Faith was 2 weeks overdue, and I had to be induced.  Very long time to be in labor.  Here is Faith’s birth video!

With Josephine, I again had to be induced because I had gestational diabetes and they wanted her out 2 weeks early.   Labor pains began about 12 hours after being induced, and the contractions lasted about 4 hours I think.  I know they usually say second pregnancies are easier but that was not the case for me.  Contractions were much more painful the second time giving birth!  But so worth it! Here’s Josephine’s birth video!


Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 35?

If so, how do you address these concerns? I am BLESSED to be an older mom.  I have full trust in God’s timing.  There is a time and season for everything – Ecclesiastes 3:1. In this season of my life I am thanking the Lord every single day for our beautiful and healthy baby girls He gave us.

What do you enjoy most about being a first time mom over 35?

I’m happy to have two important qualities now: Wisdom and humility.  Characteristics I wouldn’t have had much of  if I became a mother in my 20’s.  I have learned that life does not go as you planned, but how the Lord has planned. “Humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.” – Proverbs 16:9. I have learned that I want and need Jesus in my life in order to have the life I was meant to live.  I humbled myself and learned that “they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles!” – Isaiah 40:31. It is so true!

How has becoming a mom changed you?

To be honest, I feel I have always been a mother… just waiting on my children 🙂  The only thing that has changed is my ever-growing love and thankfulness to our Lord. With each passing day, I get to see my girls grow and thrive and learn about our sweet Heavenly Father.  What an enormous blessing that is!

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7

If motherhood after 35 does not become a reality, learn to accept what God’s plan may be for your life; whatever that may be.  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11.

One thing I have always blogged about during my own journey of pregnancies and miscarriages is, “Always hold on to the Lord’s hand. Never let go. No matter what happens.”

Natural Pregnancy After 40 for New Mom Holly

By January 3, 2018 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

Natural pregnancy over 40 was not only possible for Holly (pictured above with daughter Lucy) from Colorado, but she now dispels fears of other women considering motherhood after 40. Here is Featured InSeason Mom Holly’s pregnancy and birth story:

Name: Holly

Age you gave birth: 43

State of residence: Colorado

Child’s name: Lucy

Current or former profession(s): Social work graduate student and freelance writer


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

5 months

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

I don’t smoke cigarettes and I didn’t drink alcohol during the time I was trying to conceive.  I was also seeing an acupuncturist at the time to address sinus issues.  According to Chinese medicine principles, Acupuncture is designed to unblock one’s chi (energy flow) and create a free flow of life force energy throughout the body.

Acupuncturists believe that women have low fertility due to congested areas in the body which block their chi.  Freeing up the flow of energy facilitates and encourages fertility.  And while I didn’t seek out acupuncture for that purpose, it definitely increased the chances of pregnancy and sped up the process significantly.  I also took a prenatal vitamin with folic acid.


How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

For the most part, the doctors and other medical staff were very supportive.  I had a managed-care system of health care at the time, which worked out to my advantage.  There were many different providers from which to choose and, upon deciding that I didn’t click with the personality of the initial OB/GYN, I was able to choose a new one without any problem.

The prenatal care included multiple free visits with the OB, 3 visits with a specialist in high risk pregnancy, and various other types of frequent monitorings such as non-stress tests.  I was lucky in that my health insurance provider has a standard practice for all pregnant women over 35 that includes the aforementioned services.  I felt very well cared for.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I did change doctors about halfway through the pregnancy.  I felt that the original doctor did not make herself available for questions and did not fully explain the answers to the questions I did have.  She did not seem sensitive to the fact that this was my first pregnancy and I had no idea what to expect.  She just had a bad bedside manner.  I chose a new doctor through the network and was very pleased with her.  She walked me through the process slowly and explained how my situation was different from a typical pregnancy due to age and high-risk status.


What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

They were all excited and happy for me.  It should be noted that I didn’t tell anyone I was trying to get pregnant, so there was no pressure or unsolicited opinions from my social circle or family members.  I didn’t receive any negative feedback about my age.


What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I had high blood pressure throughout the pregnancy and it was necessary to induce labor once I reached full term at 37 weeks.  This was 2 weeks earlier than I had planned.  The main things I remember about the experience are these:

  • I felt absolute terror about the physical pain that would be involved once the process began. Once I got the epidural, all that changed and I was so much more comfortable than I thought I’d be.  I was so happy that I decided to do it in a hospital, surrounded by medical personnel who knew what they were doing.  While a C-section is more likely with an epidural, that was not the case for us.  Thank goodness!
  • A few people gave me the advice of going on 30-minute walks 3-4 times per week and doing squats daily in preparation for labor. I started doing that in the 6 weeks leading up to delivery.  Wow, they were so right!  I was able to get the baby out in 4 pushes.  The nurses remarked several times about how strong I was.


Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 40? If so, how do you address these concerns?

I’m probably like most other moms over 40 in that I’m afraid I’ll die too soon to see her graduate, get married, have kids, etc.  But as far as I can tell, that fear is utter nonsense. It is statistically way more likely than not that I’ll live into my 80s and get to hang out with my 40-year-old daughter. That said, I feel compelled to stay in decent shape so I don’t throw out my back hauling the kid up and down the stairs.

I do calisthenics workouts in my living room (7-10 minutes tops) and I take my daughter and pug out for 30-minute walks a few days a week.  It keeps me feeling strong enough to handle what motherhood throws at me.  I used to want to be in shape just to look good but now I have a whole new, more worthwhile reason to be fit.  And I’m so much more motivated because the pay-off is immediate.  It only takes a few weeks of doing pushups and core exercises to make a significant difference in your strength and fitness.

What do you enjoy most about being a first-time mom over 40?

I love that I got to experience so many things in my 20’s and 30’s, free as a bird to live life the way I wanted and see the things I saw.  I don’t have to wonder what life would have been like if I didn’t have kids because I already experienced it.  I also have the calm attitude that comes with time and I know how to manage stress.  I don’t get rattled easily.

Also, I grew up without the internet or cell phones and I’ve had a job since high school.  I feel well equipped to ensure my daughter has the skills to succeed in life, part of which will be knowing how to entertain herself without an iPad.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

In most ways, I’d say I haven’t changed much at all.  It has been surprisingly easy to incorporate Lucy into my regular routine and lifestyle.  What has changed is that I feel I have a deeper connection to humanity in general.  I suddenly care more for all kids around me; I think about the world they will live in and what life will be like after I’m gone.  Now that I have a direct descendant I’m more emotionally attached to the next generation.  I’m excited to see who they’ll grow to become and what things are important to them.

I’m also more motivated to make money in different ways.  I’m doing a variety of things to bring in money so I can help provide for my family.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 40?

Go for it!!!  Don’t worry about being too old.  I’m in better shape now than I was in my 30’s.  I remember reading and hearing so many negative things about giving birth after a certain age and it scared me to death.  It wasn’t until I reconnected with an old friend who had 2 kids after 40 that I began to feel okay about going ahead with it.  I was so freaked out, thinking for sure my child would be severely disabled or that I would be putting myself in physical danger.  But that just isn’t the case for most people having babies in “advanced maternal age.”  I worked in the field of developmental disabilities for over 20 years and rare was the case that a child’s disability was directly related to the mother’s age.

Additional comments?

I encourage other women to mentally prepare themselves for feeling like they’re having a nervous breakdown for the first few months of the child’s life.  It’s okay to feel totally overwhelmed.  The adjustment period is bound to be a little harder for us older gals because we’ve been grown women for much longer than the 20 and 30-somethings.  It can be a huge shock to the system to make such a big change later in life.  But after the initial shock wears off, you’ll probably find that you’re way more prepared for this now than you would have been 15 or 20 years before. The timing is just right.

InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Holly for sharing her inspiring pregnancy and birth story. Check out her website Mom In Phase Two.   Are you a first time mom over 35, over 40? Email or for details to share your encouraging pregnancy and birth story.

Meet Mom Karen Abercrombie, Actress,Singer-Songwriter,Speaker, Producer

By December 26, 2017 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Popular Posts, Uncategorized


Name: Karen Abercrombie

Age when you gave birth: 39

Residence: North Carolina and Los Angeles, CA

Child’s name: Michael, currently a college student

Current profession(s): Actress (Miss Clara from War Room Movie), Singer-Songwriter, Storyteller, Motivational Speaker, Producer at Tapestry Entertainment


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

Oh my, I was trying around 6 years.

What did you do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

You know people tell you about natural ways to stimulate the ovaries. I did a lot of teas. I stayed in the best optimum physical shape as I could. And, my husband and I were checked out a couple of times by doctors to make sure (our health) everything was good.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctors were extremely supportive. They were helpful. Sometimes, the medical community is overwhelmed. So, it’s a quick “hi” and “see you tomorrow.” But, my doctors were helpful, warm, loving and engaging.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

They were all pretty much blown away and excited. I taught children’s theatre. I was very active in the community with youth and children. I’ve always loved children and everyone knew that. I was honored to be the godmother for a bunch of children. But still inside, I wanted my own. My family and friends were rallying and rooting for me to become pregnant.


What do you remember most about the birth experience?

Oh my goodness, I was in labor for 28 hours!  I got to 7cm. Then after all that time, they decided to do a C-section. I wish they had done it sooner but the baby was getting stressed. Then I said, “okay, do it.”


What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

The only thing is my husband and I are older and my child is an only child. Of course, if you can be there with him forever, you would. But, there have been so many benefits. Having a younger child at my age, I’m current— in technology, lingo and everything.

I’ve always kept myself in shape. I hiked until I was 8 months pregnant. I lived out in LA during that time. They have wild cats up in their hills. So, when I hiked, I took my dog, baby in the womb, a weapon (for wild cats) because I wasn’t as fast as I used to be.   I exercised throughout my pregnancy. After my baby was born, I continued to take care of myself and bounced back quickly.  I’ve kept up my exercise and still take care of myself.

How has becoming a mom changed you? What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I’m wiser and more settled. I prayed to have a baby for what seemed like forever. After my son was born, my career picked up. But, I made a decision to slow things down. I wanted to be a “hands-on” mother, to concentrate and raise the gift God gave me.

Becoming a mother allowed me to understand God’s love better, the unconditional love He has for me. He not only gave me the gift of His Son but He gave me the gift of my son. So, I could know the mother to child love.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Be in the best physical shape as possible, first and foremost.  Motherhood takes a lot of energy. You can see it wearing out younger mothers. Once you’re in good physical health, you can work on the mental part and everything that goes along with it. I made it a point to stay in shape and trust God to guide me.

Visit Karen’s website to learn more about her. Meanwhile, check out the clip below of her outstanding portrayal of Miss Clara in the movie War Room.

First Time Mom Over 35 Elizabeth-Natural Pregnancy After Infertility Diagnosis

By October 3, 2017 Blog, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

First Time Mom Over 35 Elizabeth DeRoo (pictured with son Luke Anthony) shares her inspiring story of natural conception after an unexplained infertility diagnosis and a miscarriage.

Name: Elizabeth DeRoo

Age you gave birth: 38

State/Country of residence: New York

Child’s name and age: Luke Anthony, 4 months

Current or former profession(s): Commercial Insurance Account Manager


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We were trying for 22 months.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

After 6 months of not getting pregnant naturally I sought the assistance of a fertility specialist. My husband and I went through testing and were diagnosed with “unexplained infertility”. We decided to utilize the IUI procedure and got pregnant the second month of treatment. That pregnancy ended up being a partial molar and ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks.

While I was pregnant my fertility doctor mentioned to me that he believed I could probably get pregnant on my own. After the miscarriage, we were not able to try to get pregnant for 6 months per doctor’s orders due to the nature of the partial molar pregnancy. When we were given the go ahead to resume treatment, we decided instead to try on our own for a few months again to get pregnant naturally. We conceived the very first month! I had taken Evening Primrose Oil and cough syrup to try to increase my chances of getting pregnant. I have no idea whether the herbs and the cough syrup helped me to get pregnant or not, but it was worth the small monetary and time investment either way!


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor had her youngest child at the age of 37 so she was supportive of me having a child later in life before I even got pregnant. I was on the practice’s high risk case load due to my age, but that didn’t bother me and it didn’t affect my experience negatively.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I had a fabulous team of doctors and would not have changed that. I ended up being diagnosed with Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy (ICP) at 28 weeks along. When I suspected I might have ICP (due to sudden onset of intense itching), my doctor took my concern seriously. She immediately ordered blood tests and due to her quick response I was diagnosed four days later and my treatment for the condition began immediately. ICP can be fatal for the baby so it was imperative that we got the condition under control. I cannot say enough positive things about the doctors I had treating me and my baby.  They were amazing!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

Everyone was thrilled for my husband and me! We had been trying for almost 2 years so our friends and family were over the moon for us.

Labor and Delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I had to deliver my son at 37 weeks due to an increased risk of stillbirth during the last few weeks of ICP pregnancies. I was induced, but ended up having a C-section after 36 hours because my labor did not progress. The birth process was a little traumatic for me because I felt separated from the experience by the surgical and sterile nature of a C-section. Despite it being a less than perfect birth experience, I am grateful I was able to deliver a healthy baby boy. The actual birth was a short period of time and when remembering it I try to focus on what came after that, being a MOM!


Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 35? If so, how do you address these concerns?

I worry about being around for Luke well into his adult life. I try to recognize that none of us have control over how long we will be around. The best I can do is take care of myself. I believe I became a mother at the exact time that I was supposed to. I have to leave the rest of it in God’s hands.

What do you enjoy most about being a first time mom over 35?

I feel like I have a better sense of priorities at this stage of my life. My family comes first before any other obligation I have. I’m perfectly fine putting off chores to enjoy time with my child. I know that he’s only going to be small for a short time so I’m trying to soak it all in. I am fine saying “no” to outside requests in order to spend time with my son. I have to work outside of my home so the time I have with him is precious to me. I get such joy out of spending my evenings focusing on him, giving him a bath and putting him to bed each night. This experience is my reward after a day at the office.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I think my heart has softened a bit more. I’m more open. I feel things more deeply than I did before. I also realize that I need to be my best self. I can parent my son and tell him how to be a good person, but what will have the deepest impression on him are my actions. I want him to see the qualities in me that I am trying to impart on him. I know I am not a perfect Mom, but I hope to be the Mom my son needs.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Don’t count yourself out because you’re over 35. If you really have the desire in your heart to become a mother, pursue it. And remember that most statistics you will find online about getting pregnant after 35 are from very old studies…I’m talking centuries old. If I had to give myself advice based on my experience I would say, have patience. I think if I had given myself more time to get pregnant I would have gotten there on my own without having gone through fertility treatment. I don’t regret any part of my journey, but I might have saved myself a few bucks!

Additional comments?

I would encourage other Inseason Moms that might be reading this to share their story. I think unless you’re surrounded by other moms that have gotten pregnant over 35, it can feel pretty lonely. I had the desire to become pregnant and was so unsure whether that dream would ever be fulfilled. The stories I found on this website and any others I could find, buoyed me when I was feeling low.

During the dark times the stories of other women encouraged me and helped me to continue moving forward. I think I thought that it was going to be a lot harder to become a mother than it was. And, what I have learned from that is to have faith. I have also come to believe that women are fertile far longer than the mainstream media would have you believe.

In the end, my pregnancy came with such little struggle it was almost anticlimactic, but it is by far the best thing to have ever happened to me. My life is filled with so much joy because of my sweet Luke. I couldn’t be more grateful!


Tina Marie- Conceived Naturally 2 Babies After 40

By September 13, 2017 Blog, Featured Moms, First-Time Expectant Mom Over 40

Name: Tina Marie

Ages when you gave birth: 42 and 44

 State of residence: Arizona

Children:  Braylon, age 2 and Bryce- 3 months (Tina was pregnant with Bryce at the time of this interview.)

Current or former profession(s):  Actress, Events Manager, Nerium Consultant, Stay- At- Home Mommy


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We weren’t trying either time. We were just enjoying life! We did not do any planning other than having a desire of our hearts.


How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor was very supportive, made me feel more comfortable and gave me hope when I was scared. This second time, I was shocked  when I found out I was pregnant.  I think the lady (doctor) seemed shocked as well!

What did you do to increase your chances of becoming pregnant a second time?

I never worked on increasing my chances except for prayer and taking prenatal pills after the first baby was born, while breastfeeding him.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors?

No, I kept the same one. I considered changing because my doctor was a part of a team and based on the day you deliver, my doctor may not have been available. The thought to switch occurred to me –a few times– just because I heard about another lady (doctor) who was so loving and I like that connection. Other than that, my doctor wanted me to have another baby right away. I laughed!


What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your first and current pregnancy?

Everyone was elated and some shocked. I recently shared on Facebook how I was overwhelmed by all the love and support from both near and far. My husband was definitely surprised and took some time to digest having another baby. I shared the news by giving him an empty can of Prego sauce with our names, Reg and Tina, on the outside of the can. Inside of the can was the picture of my 8 weeks ultrasound!



What do you remember most about the birth experience?

With my first birth experience, I remember going shopping in Target. My hubby was in car. I needed to use the restroom because of a surprised mucous plug breaking. I thought something was wrong. I called the doctor. Then, we (hubby and I) went on about our day with some relief. I fit in shopping at Sephora and a Pregnancy Photo Shoot!

My check-up was scheduled for the following morning. I was going to have to be induced or I needed to be dilated. I started crying and we went straight to the hospital. The rest is history except towards the end when I was challenged to start pushing. We prayed and the doctor advised me that “this next push had to be like an Olympic runner or we would have do alternative,” meaning a C- section.

I said to my husband and sisters, “Cheer me on guys!” My doctor said okay and brought the forceps team in. I was finished after that big strong push!

With my second birth experience, my doula was with my hubby Reggie and me. I believe having a doula made the experience even more joyful because Reggie was able to focus with me. My doula took pictures (of the birth).  She did things that I wasn’t able to do and see things I would not remember.  Reggie and my doula made my experience truly surreal and amazing.

I was checked in the hospital a week later (than my due date). I was in active labor for about 1 hour and 15 minutes. I was started on Pitocin when  I was at 4 cm. We had worship music playing.  We prayed as a team. My doula’s direction was so encouraging. The big surprise was when my contractions grew closer and closer, my doula told the nurse, without my knowing, that the doctor needed to come in. She told the nurse, “I do not want to have to deliver this baby.”

Even though the epidural was requested, the anesthesiologist was on his way but there was no turning back. I was unable to stop pushing. Our baby was ready.  I kept saying “where is the epidural.”

They said, “It’s showtime! He is coming out!”  At 12:54 PM, I gave a half a dozen pushes and our Lil Angel came out healthy and natural. Au natural! I couldn’t believe it! There was no way I thought I could endure this pain, but God knew.

We were blessed with a baby boy named Bryce, weighing  7.10 pounds and 21 inches.  For this I am truly grateful!

We stayed in the hospital a couple of days to recuperate and enjoy time alone before returning home. Hubby and big brother Braylon even stayed which made it one big slumber party and celebration of our 2nd little prince!


What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address this concern? 

The most that concerns me is being there to support my children later in their years. I believe it’s important to take care of myself and stay in shape. I want to live long with a youthful and healthy body, mind, and soul for my children. Anything is possible just depends on how you feel!

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I enjoy having more quality time to give my sons and living in a season where I am more mature. The quality time I have and the desire to raise another person is awesome.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I definitely have a new compassion for children. Because of the responsibility God has given me to raise strong children with a passion for life, I am less selfish and I give unconditional love to my children that I can see grow up in His likeness.  I am more settled and desire to play more,too.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

IMG_3929Be available, stay healthy, and have a heart of compassion to live life to the fullest. We are as old as we feel! Don’t act your age in all ways, only use wisdom with a youthful attitude. Be present and communicate your needs clearly.

Never give up! Life is precious.  Eat well, pray, have a support group, and get involved with other like- minded moms. Never give up because life is precious as gold and silver.  (Special thanks to this month’s blog post sponsor Heaven Sent Infant Wear-Infant Wear With A Spiritual Reflection)