Name: Jennifer Workman (pictured above with son)
Age when you gave birth: 37
State/Country of residence: Columbia, SC
Child’s name and age: Jaarr
Current or former profession(s): Author, Inspirational Speaker, Entrepreneur, Playwright http://jyworkman.wix.com/jennifer
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
I didn’t have a set time. When it needed to happen, the Lord blessed me to have my son. That’s the best way I can explain it!
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?
Positive thinking and speaking it into existence for the Bible states emphatically that “life and death is in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21, NIV).”
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
I was thankful to have a very experienced and compassionate group of people in the medical field around me. They made the process so much easier as I was going through my pregnancy. They were willing to answer any questions or concerns that I had. I’m grateful for the experience.
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
I kept the same doctors through the process and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?
My family was very happy for me especially my mother because she was waiting for a long time for me to have children and was very supportive and helpful.
LABOR AND DELIVERY
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
The birth experience was slightly scary as this was my first time. But to my surprise, the Lord blessed it to be a smooth transition. I did have a caesarean section which was very uncomfortable. Other than that, to see my beautiful baby boy and to hear his melodious cry made it all worthwhile! I would do it all over again!
I AM MOM!
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
I really don’t have many concerns. I pray the Lord gives me the strength at 40+ and patience to be a good mom and to be able to do all the things for my son as any other parent. Other than that, I am okay and I pretty much go with the flow.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
I thank God for the wisdom that he has given me to impart to my son at this age that I may not have been able to do at an earlier age. I am just more settled minded at this age and I believe that this is both beneficial to myself as well as my son.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
Being a mom has changed me in many ways and has given me more focus for life. All before, I was more individually focused. Now, I have a child that’s dependent upon me. My love has expanded and my desire is to be a good mom, good role model and example for him and others to follow. I recognize that he’s learning from what he sees, patterned by myself and his father. I don’t take this lightly!
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
Don’t fear having children or parenting after 40 for it is a great and rewarding experience. God doesn’t make mistakes. If He has given you the opportunity, at this venture in your life, to be a parent, know that He has entrusted you to be a good mother. Utilize what He has equipped you with the best you can. All that matters is He loves you and will help you along the way!
Cynthia’s note: Below is an article Bouncing Baby Boy: The Joys of toddlers Growth and Development Jennifer wrote about her son Jaarr:
“Oh, the joys of motherhood!” I am so thankful for the great privilege and opportunity that I’ve been given to raise a strong, courageous, rambunctious and gifted little boy. The Lord blessed me with my son (Jaarr) on March 25th, 2012 and ever since, it has been a rich, full and rewarding experience. But, what has made it an even more enjoyable experience was when I noticed several months ago, my toddler constantly bouncing and “boogeing” to every genre of music. He loves music! It doesn’t matter what is transpiring during the day. If he hears music, he will stop what he is doing altogether and begin to dance all around the house.
“And I do mean boogie.” With legs lifted, arms extended, shoulder jerking motions, and all, he “parties like it’s nineteen ninety nine.” It is the funniest thing to behold and if I am feeling hard-pressed and tired from a long day, seeing him makes me “laugh exuberantly.
Not only does my son participate in this form of “active play” but he encourages my active participation in the process. I think I may have a professional dancer in the making or is that just “my wishful thinking?” I believe that whether he is a dancer, doctor, lawyer, and/or preacher, he is going to make a great contribution to the world!
In the meantime, I am going to continue to educate, motivate and cultivate an atmosphere of “active play” that is essential to his overall physical, psychological and emotional development. Furthermore, if he chooses to dance, then dance it is. If he wants to play, then play it is. Or, if he wants to read, write, or otherwise, then “so be it.” Children are like “sponges” and “soak up” everything around them. In other words, they are constantly learning from their environment. That is why we as parents must give them the freewill to explore and learn.