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When Everyone’s Getting Pregnant in their 40s Except You (Updated)

By March 27, 2020 Blog, Featured Moms

Throughout the years, you’ve held onto your faith. But lately, you’ve started to think your waiting for a baby is in vain. What’s even worst is that regardless of where you go, another 40-something woman is pregnant! When will it be your turn?

I believe it’s more difficult to deal with the “everyone getting pregnant except you” perception when you’re 42 rather than 22. After all, we’re inundated with information that our biological clock is not only tickling, it’s sounding the alarm.

Following is good coping advice on dealing with your emotions while trying to conceive, regardless of your age.

Please note: I am not endorsing any or receiving payment for any of the products found in the reference articles. I am mainly citing the article for reference.


While it’s not necessarily a good idea to unleash all that pent up anger and frustration at a pregnant family member of friend, it’s also not a good idea to keep it all inside either. Find an acceptable way to unleash your anger and sadness. Write in a journal, go for a run, even have a good cry every now and then.

Source: Conceive Easy


Jen Brandon of Orange County, California, has struggled for nearly four years to have a second child. She’s suffered multiple early miscarriages, taken three rounds of Clomid, undergone five cycles of artificial insemination, and weathered two surgeries. All she has to show for it is a huge hole in her bank account. “I try not to be bitter,” she says, “but sometimes when I see a pregnant woman, I think, ‘I hate pregnant women!’” Dr. Madeline Licker Feingold, PhD, a reproductive medicine psychologist and fertility counselor based in Berkeley, California, says, “It’s a normal, natural, negative thought. It’s the pain and grief speaking.”

Source: BabyZone (no longer operational)


Yes, you can feel sorry for yourself. “I do believe in throwing pity parties,” says Shoshana Bennett, PhD, a clinical psychologist. You don’t even have to stop at one pity party. But here’s the trick: You want to end on a positive note each time, or else it could lead to more depression. So pick a time and place and let it all out — cry, yell, write in a journal — however it is that you can get your feelings out. But give yourself a time limit: Party’s over in 15 minutes, that kind of thing.

Source: The Bump


If you don’t feel comfortable attending all of the baby showers, gender reveal parties, bringing home baby parties, etc, don’t go. Simple as that. If the person who invited you is a truly good friend, they will understand. And, if they’re not, who cares? Send a gift if you feel like it, but don’t subject yourself to pain and being uncomfortable if you are not ready to deal with it. You don’t have to feel guilty about this one, you get a free pass!

Source: Conceive Easy 


“It’s important to keep in mind that you’re in very good company,” says Shoshana Bennett, PhD, a clinical psychologist. “Connecting with a group of women in the same situation can be very useful, as long as it’s a group that’s positive. Make sure everyone is supporting each other and not just complaining and bringing each other down.” Not only can the other women help boost your confidence, they can be sounding boards when you’re stressed. They can also help you with fertility info that you may not have known. You can really identify with the other ladies and find a great support system.  (Cynthia’s note: I suggest InSeasonMom on Facebook)

Source: The Bump

Isabel: Healthy Baby After 35

By December 27, 2019 Blog, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

Meet First Time Mom Isabel who gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby after age 35 and after a miscarriage!

Name: Isabel

Age you gave birth: 39 (Just a month shy of 40)

State/Country of residence: California

Child’s name and age: Valentina, almost her first birthday!

Current or former profession: Designer


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

The first round/ time about 7 months. I had a miscarriage. The second round just 1 month. From the ages of 30 through 37, I was in an on and off relationship (and engagement) with someone that didn’t want children, so I wasn’t even able to try to conceive then. It was very hard to choose between the love of the man I wanted to marry and my dream of becoming a mother. I wanted to at least try to become a mum.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

I took CoQ10, prenatal vitamins and 1 gram of queen bee’s royal jelly with breakfast everyday. At night, during the evening, I took primrose oil. Although I have never been a salad person, my dream of becoming a mother was stronger so I ate a salad for lunch everyday. I stopped eating pastries, reduced my sugar and alcohol intake.

Also, I increased my yoga and meditation practice to 4 – 5 days a week. I started acupuncture for pregnancy at 35. I did acupuncture every Monday and continued even while pregnant.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

Very supportive. They were thrilled because they knew I wanted to become a mum for a long time, especially my Ob/Gyn. She saw me and treated me for two medical conditions: Uterine fibroids that were discovered at 32 and HPV, my cells came positive when I was 34.

At age 34, I underwent a LEEP surgery. That was a very scary moment because my fertility was in danger. My Ob/Gyn was always clear and direct about my choices and kept it real for me. So, of course when I told her I was pregnant, she wasn’t surprised because we had been working hard on preserving my fertility since I was 32. She also knew about my struggle with my former “fiancee” as that was a huge challenge on it own.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

No, I was very happy with both my Ob/Gyn and my regular doctor. Both were females and both had their first babies in their late 30s. They both also knew snippets of my personal life and one way or another coached me to go “solo” on my motherhood journey.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

Most of them were very happy. They knew I had left the love of my life to pursue the dream of my life. A few were a bit less enthusiastic as they knew my love situation wasn’t ideal. They just wanted to protect me by making me aware of how much work mothering a baby was. Girl, were they right, but it’s also so beautiful.

Labor and Delivery

Peaceful and Pregnant Isabel

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

Almost everything! The contractions and support from my partner to survive them. The Peanut Birthing and Yoga ball.The music we played and our mantras. Singing to my baby girl as soon as she was out and on my chest.

The Morning Before Baby Arrives

On Wednesday, January 30th I went to bed as always with a full pregnant belly and my dog. When I woke up at around 2 AM to go to the toilet I felt a drip of water coming down my legs. I thought it was urine as my bladder was receiving so much pressure. After going to the toilet, I noticed my dog sniffing my legs in an almost obsessive way. She never does that in the middle of the night. Certainly there was a different scent coming from the drip. I went back to bed because the drip was so minimal and slow.

At 6 AM we woke up again to have breakfast. The drip of water was still there, and was still quite light and slow. I decided to call the nurse, she told me “seems that your water has broken.” I imagined my water breaking was going to be like in Hollywood movies—a huge gush of water. This was just a small tiny bit of water coming down. She told me to call the doctor again at noon.

I went about my day which included taking my dog for a walk. This time something told me I needed to give my dog a special walk because it could probably be our last one before the baby. As we were getting back home, I could feel the drip of water getting a bit bigger, yet still subtle. I had lunch, gave a bone to my dog and at 12:30PM called the doctor.

Her assistant told me to go to the hospital. My hospital bag was ready and next to the main door, but I was reluctant to take it. I thought they were just going to check on me and send me home. I was having Braxton Hicks but I had them on and off for the past month so they didn’t mean much to me.

To my surprise, when I checked in, they put a wristband on me and told me I was staying! At that moment I called my partner and told him the time had come. He was working. I was cool as a lettuce and told him to finish his shift and come afterwards. I can’t believe I was that relaxed (perhaps too much meditation)!

Baby Is Coming

By the time my partner got to the hospital my contractions were increasing. I had received Pitocin. By midnight, contractions were in full mode. We did breathing exercises, used the Yoga ball to help me cope with the contractions. I didn’t want to take the epidural. We used the Peanut Birthing Ball and it was a life saver.

By 4:30 AM I had dilated 8.5 cm but couldn’t take the contractions pain any more so I screamed “Epidural”! Thanks to the epidural, I was able to stop breathing heavily and was able to nap, or at least try to nap. The Peanut Birthing Ball was in between my tights for an hour or so. At 6 AM, I was fully dilated and the pushing journey began.

Pushing while half of your body is asleep was so weird. At one point I freaked out as I couldn’t feel my legs and started thinking what if there is an earthquake. How on earth was I going to run? Now I laugh but then I was actually scared.

At 1 PM my OB/Gyn, who had the day off, arrived. She told me I would either have to push my baby out or I had to get a C-Section because my baby’s heart was slowing down. And then in less than 5 minutes, the room changed. There were 4 nurses with my Ob/Gyn looking at me and saying, “Ok Isabel I need you to give your 110%.”

My partner grabbed my left leg high and my hand. We looked at each other and with that look he gave me all the possible power. I gave it my 110% … and voila … there was my baby love on my chest. That was such a surreal moment. I was crying tears of happiness.

Valentina with her daddy

My baby was there now with me. My partner was crying too. Nothing compares to that moment. It was the happiest moment of my life!

I’m a Mom!

Isabel on the beach with Valentina

Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 35? If so, how do you address these concerns?

My energy levels are not the same as if I was in my 20s or early 30s, so sometimes I worry about not giving my 100% to my daughter when she needs an energetic mum. But then I remember that today I am a wiser woman and what I don’t give her in energy, I give to her in wisdom.

What do you enjoy most about being a first time mom over 35?

Having tons of experiences to share with my daughter. I lived life and traveled and can share all of that with her now.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

Shifted my goals. It’s not any more about just me. Now it’s us.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Relax and enjoy the process. Enjoy your time and go out with friends. Life does change after becoming a mother and that happy hour or yoga class becomes more difficult to plan. Most importantly, remember that the universe has a plan for you whether it be mum to your natural child or someone (something) else. Approach it with an open mind. I know it’s difficult, but when I started that approach, I think is when I was able to get pregnant.

Additional comments?

I want to highlight that in some cases the challenge is not necessarily being able to get pregnant. It’s finding a partner to embark on the adventure with. When living in a big city like NYC, LA or any other, sometimes is hard to find a partner that wants children. In my case, I bit the bullet and went almost solo. But the universe conspired and brought a willing partner at the 11th hour. If it’s meant to be, the universe will help you.

Kelly First Time Mom Over 40-IVF Success

By October 1, 2019 Blog, Featured Home, Uncategorized

Name: Kelly

Age you gave birth: 46

State/Country of residence: Ontario, Canada

Child’s name and age: Bug is his nickname. He is 3 years old.

Current or former profession(s): I was in the service industry for 20 years, working as a bartender and server.  Currently, I am a stay at home mom, and an aspiring “mompreneur” and blogger. I design and hand paint glassware as well under my business name Luna Selene Creations.
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How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We tried the old fashioned way for 6 months before we went to a fertility specialist. Mark ( my husband) was 40 and I was 43 when we started trying. We went through our fertility treatments for a total of 2 and 1/2 years before we had a successful cycle.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

When we were trying on our own I tried everything under the sun! I already had a pretty healthy lifestyle as far as eating and exercise but I added in a lot of supplements and tweaked my diet with fertility-boosting foods. I scoured the internet for vitamins, supplements, and healthy foods to improve fertility. I tried them all I swear! Maca root, royal jelly, bee pollen, juicing all kinds of veggies, especially beets. We jokingly called them “Beetaritas!”

I ate a ton of avocados, walnuts, and olive oil based dishes because I read that a Mediterranean diet could help.  I figured it couldn’t hurt anyway!  I did a lot of yoga and I also did acupuncture and lymphatic massages.  
I added in extra Vitamin E (natural source), L-Arganine, along with my other daily supplements.

As time went on, we knew our odds were decreasing because my eggs were getting older; we had to try the 3 rounds of IUI (intrauterine insemination) and one round of IVF with our own embryos.  After those attempts failed, we were fortunate enough to have a chance to try 2 cycles with donor embryos. 

Our second cycle of this type was the one that worked, the miracle that resulted in our beautiful son. We are so blessed and grateful beyond words to have been given this opportunity.  It was actually going to be our final attempt with IVF no matter what. We made peace with that and kind of realized that we could only do so much.  What’s meant to be will always find a way.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctors were 100% supportive all the way.  Especially being with a fertility specialist like we were, there was never a feeling from him that I was “too old” or that I shouldn’t do all I could to follow my dreams of being a Mom.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I did not change doctors, nor did I want to.  Our doctor is the best fertility specialist in our area in my opinion. He and his staff are kind, compassionate and tireless when it comes to their patients. We always felt encouragement from them and he was always pushing forward to figure out how to make a pregnancy stick for me. In the end, the tweaks that we used during that final protocol, were the things that helped me get pregnant and stay pregnant!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

Overjoyed and excited beyond words!  We are so lucky to have a wonderful support system made up of our family and friends.  I suppose some mere acquaintances may have been raising an eyebrow behind our backs seeing as some of them were already having grandbabies! But this was our journey and we couldn’t have cared less if people thought we were a little crazy.  Like Dr. Suess says “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter”.

Labor and Delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I remember it was fast and furious because I was induced with Pitocin a few days before my due date.  With IVF patients, my doctor recommends this due to the chances of the placenta function being compromised and amniotic fluid possibly getting low.  I’m pretty sure my age was also a factor but mainly it was because of the IVF.

I went for a natural birth for various reasons, even though everyone said I’d probably change my mind about that. The contractions, once active labour kicked in, were intense and incredibly powerful. 

The worst part about it though is that they were literally on top of each other and I didn’t get much of a rest in between. I was actually about to tell the nurse to give me the epidural when she told me I was at 7 cm, and it wouldn’t take long now.  So I held off because I was worried labour would stall if I did get it.  We were so close and we were so anxious to meet him!

It was 7 hours exactly from the time I was induced to the time I delivered. The last 3 hours were pretty wild. I don’t regret going natural, but I think the epidural may have made for a more calm birth experience. It worked out the way it was supposed to for me.

 I remember that I was going back and forth between screaming and swearing like a sailor to praying to God, my Mother and anyone else up there that would listen. 

My husband was cracking jokes trying to make me smile. I wanted to smack him. I probably did because his hand was bruised pretty good because I was gripping it!)

I remember the feeling when my son’s shoulders released, and all that intense pain just vanished. I lifted my head to see the doctor pull him out and they laid him immediately on my chest.  I have never felt anything like it.  My heart was exploding with pure love and joy.  Everything changed in that moment as we watched him take his first breath right before our eyes. We both cried like babies from the sheer happiness, and really not even believing that he was finally here.

I remember feeling that I have never felt so exhausted, yet so euphoric all at once.

I’m a Mom!

Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 40? If so, how do you address these concerns?

I really don’t have any pressing concerns about being a mom over 40.  I am definitely more mature than I was 20 years ago and less selfish. I truly appreciate this gift that I have been given. If anything I suppose it has crossed my mind wondering if I will be around to meet my grandchildren, but no one is guaranteed tomorrow, regardless of age so I don’t even really count that.  

What do you enjoy most about being a first-time mom over 40?

I enjoy EVERYTHING about being a first-time mom over 40. I think mainly it’s being comfortable in my own skin and confident in myself and where I am on my path in life. I go with the flow. I know that time passes quickly so I try to cherish every moment and find joy in the small things in life.  I take mental snapshots of my son to save in my memory banks because I know he won’t be this little forever!  Even on the hard days, when I am exhausted or he is being a crabby toddler, I remind myself of how fast it goes and this too shall pass.  I honestly don’t know if I would tell myself that if I was a young mom, just having a bit more life experience changes one’s perception.  In other words, I try not to sweat the small stuff.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

The biggest change I’d say was that it’s not about me anymore. It’s all about Bug. And my husband. Our family.  Not that I don’t find little ways to pamper myself and indulge in a little self-care from time to time but right now at least, we are his sole protectors and providers. I also have a newfound appreciation of how much my own parents loved me.  It’s that kind of unconditional love that you feel for your child that really can’t compare to anything else.  Once you feel it you know.

I would do anything in the world to protect him from any type of pain or suffering. When my own Mom passed away in the hospital, my sister and I missed her by minutes, literally.  We were beating ourselves up over this until we realized that our Mom had done that for us.  She did not want us in the room to see her take her very last breath on this earth, because she knew that moment would be burned into our memory forever to relive.  And that’s the kind of Mom she was, anything to save us from pain even in her last moments. That’s the kind of Mom I hope to be.  A love like that is pure, intense and strong and now I understand it from both sides.  As a child, and now as a Mother.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood over 40?

I will just say to follow your heart and go for it. You are DEFINITELY not too old! ( remember I was 46!) and have probably had your share of young, wild and crazy adventures.  You are most likely more financially secure and stable in your career, and that it can be one of the most fulfilling times in your life. Don’t let the naysayers get you down!

 Yes, you will be tired some days but I really don’t think that being an exhausted mom applies only to us so-called older moms.  That’s universal.  I encourage you to follow your dreams always, and if becoming a mom later in life is the dream, chase after it!  Do your research, talk to your doctor and if you happen to need a little help getting there through fertility treatments, explore that option!

  Remember, that this is YOUR life, YOUR journey. You and your husband or partner are the only ones who get to have a say in what is right for your relationship and life. For me, becoming a Mom over 40  has been the greatest blessing ever, and I wish you all the best in your journey!

Conceive After 35 and 40- Food Tip

By August 10, 2019 Uncategorized

Eat Like A Pregnant Mom

I share this food tip from my experience and other women who conceived naturally after 35 and 40. Eat as if you are pregnant.

I don’t mean fulfilling the myth of the pregnant woman eating for two which involves consuming large food portions! Researchers say this type of overeating is unhealthy for the mother and baby.

In an article with WebMD, Julie Redfern, RD, LDN, a registered dietitian at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston says, “Many women who do ‘eat for two’ end up gaining an excessive amount of weight.”

How Much Nutrients

According to the article, you should increase the amount of certain nutrients. However, you need only about 300 more calories per day. Redfern says this is about the equivalent of “one slice of whole grain bread and one tablespoon of peanut butter.”

You increase your risk of gestational diabetes, backaches, high blood pressure, and other health problems for you and your baby, if you put on too much weight during pregnancy.

My Healthy Definition

My definition of eating healthier means cutting back on the sugary, salty snacks and eliminating soft drinks. You can add fruits that are naturally sweet like grapes, strawberries or cherries to your meals. 

The American Pregnancy Association recommends maintaining a diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and dairy products with the recommended dietary allowance of vitamins and minerals for proper reproductive functioning.

You should begin making healthy nutrition changes 3 months to a year before you conceive (Source: American Pregnancy Association) . Evidence shows that healthy nutrition and fertility is linked in both men and women. My translation: get your husband on board when you begin your nutritional journey.

You may not be pregnant yet, but you can start today eating as if you are carrying a child in your womb. The most important thing is to stay healthy so that you can deliver a healthy baby!

Emotional Health Tips For Your Pregnancy Over 35

By June 22, 2019 Uncategorized

Update: Pregnancy Over 35 and 40 Good News Live Support is open for Fall 2019! 

If you’re a first time expectant mother over 35 or over 40, sometimes— finding emotional support for your pregnancy can be as be as challenging as finding an American teenager who doesn’t own a cell phone!

The first words out of your doctor’s mouth upon confirming your pregnancy may not be congratulations but may be monologue filled with negative statistics about pregnancy after 35 which show an increased risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects. Or your doctor may suggest a series of tests available to older expectant moms or ask if your pregnancy was planned.

Unfortunately, this insensitiveness for pregnancy after 35 is not limited to some in the medical community. You may be hit with a variety of comments saying you’re too old to give birth or that you should consider your age when your baby goes to first- grade, becomes a teenager, gets married and so forth.  These comments can come from well-meaning relatives to friends to strangers.

How do you handle so much negativity during a time when you are most vulnerable?

1-Realize Pregnancy Hormones Are At Work

The first tip is to remember your pregnant body is undergoing hormone changes which not only affect you physically, but emotionally as well.

Translation: Comments you wouldn’t have given a second thought during your pre-pregnancy state can make you sad or angry during pregnancy. This is true whether you are an expectant mom age 22 or age 42.

Choose your thoughts wisely. Like a gardener who pulls the weeds out of her flowerbed, pull the negative thoughts from your mind. Replace them through concentration on positive and uplifting thoughts.

2- Find Moms Who Have Been Through What You’re Going Through

Having a supportive friend, ideally one who is a first time mom over 35, you can talk to about your ups and downs will be invaluable during this time. There are also online groups of expectant moms over 35 and over 40. If the online groups don’t fit your style, establish your own or join our InSeason Mom group on Facebook. If you don’t like any of these choices, email me and I’ll give you encouragement!

3- Remember Medical Studies based on Group Not Individual Results

Medical studies citing the risk factors for pregnant women over 35 and 40 are based on the results of midlife pregnant women when studied as a group. The studies are not based on your individual health history. The truth is any pregnant woman of any age may experience high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects.

According to Dr. Glade B. Curtis, author of Your Pregnancy After 35,  today, many healthcare professionals gauge pregnancy risk by a pregnant woman health status not her age.

4- Follow Doctor’s Orders

Make every effort to follow the advice of your doctor which should include getting plenty of rest, eating healthy, refraining from smoking, drinking alcohol, and taking anything that is toxic to your body or your unborn child.

5- Embrace Mental and Spiritual Health

“People run their mouth” is one of my husband’s favorite sayings, which means everyone has an opinion. Opinions are not necessarily truth.

When well-meaning folks cite how old you will be when your baby enters first grade or goes to college, ask them how old you will be in the same length of time if you didn’t give birth. Hopefully, they’ll get the point. We grow older regardless if we pursue motherhood in our late 30s or 40s. Therefore, it’s important to make our lives count by pursuing our goals. Personally, I believe the adage, “Your life is a gift from God, what you do with it is your gift back to Him.”

Jill Jonas-First Time Mom Over 35 After Wrong Diagnosis

By April 20, 2019 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Getting Pregnant After 35 and 40, Popular Posts, Uncategorized

Name: Jill Jonas

Age when you gave birth: 36

Child’s name : Dean

Current or former profession(s): I have worked abroad quite a bit (Egypt, Dubai, Mexico) and international business is my career passion. Since living in New York, I work for a medical device company.


How long were you trying to get pregnant? 

We were very fortunate and got pregnant right away in the first month we tried. We decided to try for a late spring/summer birth month and voilá! I thought it would take a couple of months at least.

However, it wasn’t completely smooth sailing at the beginning. We had two doctors tell us we weren’t pregnant and that we’d had a chemical pregnancy! Although I knew something was happening, we were in limbo for about two weeks. Finally, the HGC blood test (it test your levels 48 hours apart) results came back. My levels were rising nicely. Okay, I thought to myself, so we ARE pregnant and then glorious 9 months followed.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

We did not take my age into consideration when we were trying to conceive. It was pretty simple – I knew my cycle and we had a time frame to try. What we did not do is stress.

On another note: When I thought that we had a chemical pregnancy, it opened my eyes to how much time and effort getting pregnant could really take, as well as the emotions involved. I am very grateful to have had this realization. It makes me appreciate Dean even more.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor is the one who joked with me about the AMA(advanced maternal age) he had to put after my name on my charts. He said, “for NYC you’re a baby”. So, that’s very supportive, I guess!

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I changed doctors before we conceived. I was not happy with other OBGYN’s I had gone to previously in the city. My GP (general practitioner) recommended Dr. Andrew Scheinfeld and he only takes patients who are pregnant or trying. He is an expert at pregnancy and delivering babies – which is what I wanted and what I got!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

My in-laws were elated and surprised. We put t-shirts on our niece and nephew with the words “number one cousins” on the front with our due date on the back. It took them a while and a little encouragement to realize what those shirts meant. Once they realized what it meant, they were ecstatic. Nothing was ever said about my age.

Jill & Baby-3

When we surprised my mother, I learned something that day. She came to New York (I’m from St Louis and that’s where most of my family lives) to visit and to celebrate her birthday with Josh (my husband) and me.  When we decided to tell her the news,  I made her a birthday cake and wrote “#1 Grandma” on it. We walked out and presented her with the cake. She was so surprised, but then noticed what was written on top.

She thought we were making fun of her age and just calling her a grandma! It turns out she wasn’t expecting me to have children.  She thought I was just focused on career and other things. Once she realized that I was pregnant, she teared up and was so happy. Even though she wanted grandchildren very much, she did not burden me with that pressure. and I am very thankful for that. I am even more thankful that she is now a Grandmother, Grammy T!

On another note, anyone who has children later in life risks losing someone close to them before it can happen. I lost my father 3 years ago to cancer. Every day I think about how he would be as a grandfather, but it wasn’t meant to be. He never put any pressure on me to have children, either. I’m sure that if he had seen “Grandpa” on his cake, I would have learned something that day, too.

Labor and Delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

Luckily I remember everything. I’m not THAT old! Since we did not know the gender, the best part was hearing, “it’s a boy” and then seeing this amazing little boy held before us, behind the clear curtain. I had a gentle C- section. Dean was breech for almost the entire pregnancy. My husband and I felt like we already knew the little guy the moment we laid eyes on him!


What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

Having a second child. I don’t think I will have time to mentally prepare for that, before it is a little too late. Another concern is one that any parent has, being around for them as long as possible.  This motivates me to stay fit and healthy.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I’m just enjoying being a mom! You cannot truly describe the feelings it brings or the experience with words. It’s the best thing I have ever had the privilege to do.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

Everything has a bit more meaning. Also, I’m much better utilizing the time that I have everyday. It’s hard to procrastinate these days!

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Don’t read (focus) too much into what you read about– articles like if it is the best time for you to try for a family or to add to your family. Do it your way and don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should fear.

Jill & Baby -2