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Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips ebook

By January 6, 2017 Uncategorized

 Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips ebook

  • Quick read resource without all the depressing medical jargon or statistics
  • Over 30 practical spiritual, mental and physical coping tips that you can use now
  • Written by InSeason Mom Founder Cynthia, who conceived naturally and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to two healthy babies
  • Many books offer suggestions on getting pregnant after 35 but this e-book provides encouragement while you waiting

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Circle + Bloom: Fertility Mind Body Connection

By November 6, 2017 Uncategorized

I’ve included affiliate links from Circle +Bloom in this post. If you click on and make a purchase from them I receive a small commission.

While many remain inconclusive about how your mind can heal disease and change your physiology, the Circle + Bloom founders and countless women, including me, know it does work.

Having research and studies to support the mind and body connection to fertility is great but having seen this concept play out in my life and the lives of first time moms over 35 and 40 outshines all the research and studies.

One of my goals in starting InSeason Mom was and is to offer encouragement to women over 35 trying to conceive by sharing my story of marrying at 40, conceiving naturally and giving birth at ages 42 and 44 to two healthy children.

As a result of sharing my journey, I met other women who shared their birth and conception stories, which became the foundation for my Featured InSeason Mom articles. Whether they became first time moms over 35 through natural conception or medically assisted technology, I noticed one common factor: the mind and body connection in their fertility.

Some of these women had to overcome the negative messages and outdated data about pregnancy after 35 that were reinforced from popular online publications, reinforced from doctors, and even reinforced from well-meaning relatives.

The women took responsibility for their own health by researching and discovering much of the information about pregnancy after 35 wasn’t based on their individual medical history but on the history of women when studied as a group.

As a woman of faith, it’s not hard for me to accept what you feed your mind (think on) is as important as what you feed your body.  That’s one reason  I support the Circle + Bloom: Fertility programs.  They realize fertility begins with a de-stressed mind. They offer guided meditations for fertility with a risk-free 100% money-back guarantee.

Start today de-stressing with this proven, science-based program that many women just like you have praised for helping them become pregnant.

First Time Mom Over 35 Elizabeth-Natural Pregnancy After Infertility Diagnosis

By October 3, 2017 Blog, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

First Time Mom Over 35 Elizabeth DeRoo (pictured with son Luke Anthony) shares her inspiring story of natural conception after an unexplained infertility diagnosis and a miscarriage.

Name: Elizabeth DeRoo

Age you gave birth: 38

State/Country of residence: New York

Child’s name and age: Luke Anthony, 4 months

Current or former profession(s): Commercial Insurance Account Manager


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We were trying for 22 months.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

After 6 months of not getting pregnant naturally I sought the assistance of a fertility specialist. My husband and I went through testing and were diagnosed with “unexplained infertility”. We decided to utilize the IUI procedure and got pregnant the second month of treatment. That pregnancy ended up being a partial molar and ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks.

While I was pregnant my fertility doctor mentioned to me that he believed I could probably get pregnant on my own. After the miscarriage, we were not able to try to get pregnant for 6 months per doctor’s orders due to the nature of the partial molar pregnancy. When we were given the go ahead to resume treatment, we decided instead to try on our own for a few months again to get pregnant naturally. We conceived the very first month! I had taken Evening Primrose Oil and cough syrup to try to increase my chances of getting pregnant. I have no idea whether the herbs and the cough syrup helped me to get pregnant or not, but it was worth the small monetary and time investment either way!


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor had her youngest child at the age of 37 so she was supportive of me having a child later in life before I even got pregnant. I was on the practice’s high risk case load due to my age, but that didn’t bother me and it didn’t affect my experience negatively.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I had a fabulous team of doctors and would not have changed that. I ended up being diagnosed with Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy (ICP) at 28 weeks along. When I suspected I might have ICP (due to sudden onset of intense itching), my doctor took my concern seriously. She immediately ordered blood tests and due to her quick response I was diagnosed four days later and my treatment for the condition began immediately. ICP can be fatal for the baby so it was imperative that we got the condition under control. I cannot say enough positive things about the doctors I had treating me and my baby.  They were amazing!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

Everyone was thrilled for my husband and me! We had been trying for almost 2 years so our friends and family were over the moon for us.

Labor and Delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I had to deliver my son at 37 weeks due to an increased risk of stillbirth during the last few weeks of ICP pregnancies. I was induced, but ended up having a C-section after 36 hours because my labor did not progress. The birth process was a little traumatic for me because I felt separated from the experience by the surgical and sterile nature of a C-section. Despite it being a less than perfect birth experience, I am grateful I was able to deliver a healthy baby boy. The actual birth was a short period of time and when remembering it I try to focus on what came after that, being a MOM!


Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 35? If so, how do you address these concerns?

I worry about being around for Luke well into his adult life. I try to recognize that none of us have control over how long we will be around. The best I can do is take care of myself. I believe I became a mother at the exact time that I was supposed to. I have to leave the rest of it in God’s hands.

What do you enjoy most about being a first time mom over 35?

I feel like I have a better sense of priorities at this stage of my life. My family comes first before any other obligation I have. I’m perfectly fine putting off chores to enjoy time with my child. I know that he’s only going to be small for a short time so I’m trying to soak it all in. I am fine saying “no” to outside requests in order to spend time with my son. I have to work outside of my home so the time I have with him is precious to me. I get such joy out of spending my evenings focusing on him, giving him a bath and putting him to bed each night. This experience is my reward after a day at the office.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I think my heart has softened a bit more. I’m more open. I feel things more deeply than I did before. I also realize that I need to be my best self. I can parent my son and tell him how to be a good person, but what will have the deepest impression on him are my actions. I want him to see the qualities in me that I am trying to impart on him. I know I am not a perfect Mom, but I hope to be the Mom my son needs.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Don’t count yourself out because you’re over 35. If you really have the desire in your heart to become a mother, pursue it. And remember that most statistics you will find online about getting pregnant after 35 are from very old studies…I’m talking centuries old. If I had to give myself advice based on my experience I would say, have patience. I think if I had given myself more time to get pregnant I would have gotten there on my own without having gone through fertility treatment. I don’t regret any part of my journey, but I might have saved myself a few bucks!

Additional comments?

I would encourage other Inseason Moms that might be reading this to share their story. I think unless you’re surrounded by other moms that have gotten pregnant over 35, it can feel pretty lonely. I had the desire to become pregnant and was so unsure whether that dream would ever be fulfilled. The stories I found on this website and any others I could find, buoyed me when I was feeling low.

During the dark times the stories of other women encouraged me and helped me to continue moving forward. I think I thought that it was going to be a lot harder to become a mother than it was. And, what I have learned from that is to have faith. I have also come to believe that women are fertile far longer than the mainstream media would have you believe.

In the end, my pregnancy came with such little struggle it was almost anticlimactic, but it is by far the best thing to have ever happened to me. My life is filled with so much joy because of my sweet Luke. I couldn’t be more grateful!


Adoption After 40 for First Time Mom Wendy

By September 21, 2017 Blog, Featured Moms

Name: Wendy

Age you adopted:  44

State of residence:  Illinois

Child’s name :  William

Current profession:  Teacher


How did you arrive at the decision to adopt?

My husband and I met later in life, when I was 37 years old.  We got married when I was 41, so we decided to try having a family as soon as possible.  It turned out to be more difficult than we had originally hoped, with my age working against me.  After trying to get pregnant on our own without any success, we moved on to trying fertility treatments – IUI, IVF three times, and IVF with Donor Eggs.  We came close, but I was never able to sustain a pregnancy to full term.

As you can imagine, the emotional and physical roller coaster took quite a toll on me during these processes.  Luckily, my husband is a very supportive man, and was always there to simply hold me when I couldn’t help but cry uncontrollably.  I never lost hope that I would become a mother, though.  I knew deep in my heart that I had so much love to share, and that I would be a great mom.

My own mom has set such a wonderful example of being the kind of mom who could nurture the best in all of us, that I knew I, too, would be successful.  Eventually, my husband said, “Maybe it’s time that we move on to the next option for us – adoption.”  I had to give up the idea of being pregnant with and give birth to our child.

My supportive sister-in-law (who, coincidentally, was adopted, as well) said, “Being pregnant and giving birth is one year…  What you will have with your child is so much more than that.”  Once I had that in my heart, I knew that adoption was going to be the right path for us.

ADOPTION-International or Domestic?

Many people have misconceptions about the adoption process in general.  Did you have any and what did you learn?

We were definitely inexperienced the first time around, and had a lot of fear of the unknown.  The adoption process involves so many decisions, that it can be very daunting to the uninitiated.  Our first order of business was to simply find as much information as we could about the process and about agencies.  There were so many conflicting reports from different people about which way to do things, which type of adoption – domestic or international, which agency to use, how to go about getting a home study done, etc.

International Adoption

At first, we heavily researched international adoption.  The feature that we liked most about going the international adoption route was that it was more-or-less a wait-your-turn type of situation, where you could have a reasonable idea of when you might become parents.  We were lucky enough to meet and speak to so many adoptive parents who adopted internationally, so I think we got a good impression about it.

However, after speaking with many international adoption agencies, we found that many of the practices in other countries could feel a little shady, for a lack of a better term.  Some countries require that you bring $10,000 to $20,000 in crisp, new $100 bills.  That just seemed a little scary to us.  We also didn’t want to contribute in any way to child trafficking.  This is not meant to be a judgment on anyone else’s decision to adopt internationally.  It just wasn’t right for us.

Besides which, another requirement of many international adoptions is to make several long trips to the country… sometimes up to several months.  With both of us working, it would have been difficult to take that much time off from our jobs without resigning, or, at the very least, taking a leave of absence.

Domestic Adoption

Making the decision to adopt domestically, though, did carry some scary thoughts, as well.  The way that most domestic adoptions work, outside of the foster system where there needs to be a TPR first – Termination of Parental Rights, is that the birth mother or expectant mother chooses you.  This means that you have to put together a profile and then put yourself out there.  Of course, this is scary, because you think that it may be a possibility that you may never get chosen.

There are also so many other things that you need to think about and determine when adopting domestically.  You have to decide which things would fit well with your family and situation, and which things would not, such as: race; gender; whether or not the birth mother smokes, drinks, does drugs, etc.; how much you are willing to pay for the legal living expenses of the birth mother; whether you want a closed, semi-open, or open adoption; and many other factors.  We ended up getting chosen four times before we actually got our son.

Traumatic First, Second Letdowns

About three months after we signed with our agency, the first expectant mom chose us.  She lived in Oklahoma, though; and on the weekend that we were supposed to call her, there were 16 tornadoes.  We never did hear from her, so we wondered if she was ok.  That was our traumatic first match.

We got our second match in another three months.  We ended up staying in this match with the expectant mom for three months, paying for many of her living expenses through our social workers and agency.  However, we kept noticing that many things did not add up with her stories.  She lied about so many things to both us and to her social worker.  Now, just because an expectant mom lies, doesn’t mean that she is not going to place her child.  In fact, this would have been her fourth child placed outside of her home (though we are unclear how many of the placements were intentional adoption plans or if the outside placements could have included the Department of Children and Family Services).

After three months of the lying and the shenanigans, my husband convinced me that this was not the right match for us.  I was concerned that our adoption agency would think we were being difficult, and not match us so readily.  This situation did seem like a sure thing, considering the expectant mom’s past with placing children for adoption; however, she was so manipulative, that we chose to dissolve the match with her.  For us, it was important that we were able to say good things about the birth mother to our child.  Also, we knew that if we had a semi-open or an open adoption, that this woman would be in our lives for at least 18 years.


Meeting Our Son and Birth Mom

I was worried that we would not match again, but I didn’t have to worry long.  Only three weeks later, we got a call from our agency about a little boy who was 17 months old.  We spoke with the birth mother, and it seemed like a really good fit on the phone, so we decided to visit with the birth mom and meet the little boy two weeks later.  Meanwhile, two days after we spoke to the third birth mother, we got a call about a fourth match from an expectant mom.  This seemed like a great fit, too.  However, since we had already made plans to meet up with the third birth mother and what would then be her 18 month old, we asked the fourth expectant mom if she would be willing to wait for our decision in two to three weeks.

The first night of our visit with the third birth mother, we had dinner together.  It was truly like speaking with a long-lost friend.  In fact, she said “It feels to me as if you are my brother and sister.”  We knew that if all went well the next day, when we met the little boy, that this was the right match for us.  Here was a birth mother that we could say nice things about, and whom we wouldn’t mind keeping in our lives.

The second day of the visit, we met with the little boy and the birth mother, and hung out with them for virtually the whole day.  It was truly love at first sight, and it just grew from there.  We all knew that this was the exact right match for all involved.  Three weeks later, our son was in our custody.  That’s when our adventure as parents first began.  It was not always an easy road, since an 18-month old child is bound to suffer from the emotional trauma of the losses in his life.  However, we wouldn’t trade our situation for the world, since we have bonded so well as a whole and loving family.

The next step for us, now that our son has been with us for two and a half years, is to complete our family through adoption one more time, so that our son can benefit from having a sibling.  This is very important to us as older parents, as we have to think realistically about how long we will be in his life, and we want the siblings to be able to have each other as family when my husband and I are gone.


What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your decision to become a first time over 40 mom?

We were both lucky, in that our family and friends have been super supportive through all our trials and triumphs of becoming parents.  I did have many younger friends who were getting pregnant fairly easily, and they were sometimes hesitant to speak to me about their joys.  But I have never been one to compare my life to others, and I was truly happy for them.  I knew deep in my heart that I would be a great mom, and that my time would come, and the right child for us would come in due time.  I was right!  Our son is perfect for us.  He fits in well with our family and friends, and he even looks like my husband.

 What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you compensate for this concern?

My biggest concern is that I won’t be around for him as long as some of his friends’ parents may be for them.  My husband and I are in the process of getting ready to adopt a second child, so that the children will benefit from having a sibling throughout their lives.   Of course, I hope that both of us will be around for a long, long time yet, and will get to one day, see our grand-children.  One can only hope!

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

Like I said before, I think my mom gave us a good foundation of how a mom should be.  But I think that being an older mom definitely has it perks.  Especially, after 21 years of teaching, I have really learned how to be patient, consistent, and know that not every battle needs to be fought … It’s often better to choose your battles wisely, and let a lot of little things go.  I am sure I would have made a great mom at any age, but at an older age, I am probably even better, because I know the value of having a family.  After so many trials on our journey to having children, I feel truly blessed to finally have my dreams of motherhood come true.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

Becoming a mom is much like how I expected it to be; though, there are definitely benefits that I hadn’t expected.  Do you remember the sheer joy and love of life that you had as a child?  But somehow lose as an adult with all the things that have happened to you in life?  Well, becoming a mom gives you a window into seeing the wonderment of life as a child.  You get to relive the joy and love of life all over again through their interaction with new things and experiences.

I feel so lucky to be able to recapture that feeling, that I hope I will not lose it again.  I now know the value of keeping that joy and love of life…and not letting life take any of it from you along the way.  I hope that I will be able to help our children maintain this love of life as they grow older, as well.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35 or 40?

Honestly, I say “Go for it!”  Motherhood is pure joy.  Even when my son is misbehaving, my heart is still full of love for him.  I feel so blessed to have him in my life, and couldn’t imagine life without him anymore.


Michelle-Pregnant Naturally Over 40 After Miscarriage

By August 2, 2017 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Uncategorized

Name: Michelle

Age when gave birth :  45

State of residence: Arizona

Child’s name : Nathanael

Current or former profession(s): Actress/Model and Real Estate Agent


How long were you trying to get pregnant? 

Two years – I lost a baby at 42 and had Nathanel at 45.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?  

Having a very shaman/spiritual life, I was doing sweats and eating very clean and having regular balancing treatments.  I don’t eat a lot of processed foods. I walked, meditated and stayed very positive in my belief that I could manifest another baby.  Once I released the fear, I was able to receive the gift of pregnancy.


Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

Very supportive

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not? 

If I had had doctors who didn’t support me or believe in the idea of having a baby after 40, yes I would have changed. I felt very blessed because I had great doctors and nurses.

 Family and friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

They were all very excited for me.


Did you take any childbirth classes? Why or why not? 

Yes, we went to a birthing class once.

What do you remember most about the birth experience? 

For me it was awesome! I was in a car accident when I was 6 months pregnant. I was extremely worried because at age 42 I lost a little girl (miscarriage). I was 18 or so weeks into this pregnancy when I started to have some contractions from the car accident. I began going to an acupuncturist, massage/cranial sacral person and a chiropractor which helped greatly!

I could tell that he (Nathanael) wanted to come early. So I kept telling him that was fine, and that he could only enter this world if he was able to come home with me from the hospital.  I had dropped my husband off and went to an acupuncture appointment and then to the hospital for a routine check-up to see how Nathanael was doing.

I went into the bathroom as I always did, but didn’t seem to stop peeing.  I came out and told the nurses this and it all started—34-35 weeks into the pregnancy! I was only in labor for 8 hours and opted not to have any drugs. Around 8-9 cementers, I decided that may not have been the best choice, but by that point it was too late (lol)! He came out and all was good, except no one had prepared me for having to deliver the placenta. I was a bit overwhelmed at that idea(lol).


What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns? Michelle3

Not being here for him when he is older and not have family to connect with.  I enjoy every moment and trust.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom? 

I enjoy being in a better place with myself which allows me to have more patience and understanding toward Nathanael.

How has becoming a mom changed you?  

In every way! For me there has been no greater honor than becoming a mom! We have the chance to help shape our world by raising amazing, loving creative little souls.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35? 

Take care of yourself and never stop believing and trusting. Eat healthy foods.   I am of a mindset that in many regards, we have been brainwashed as women to believe certain things. There is so much fear out there. We create fear in our lives by hearing and believing it.

I am not saying to wait if you don’t have too (become a mother) but if you have to, work towards trusting and believing.  Take care of you; anything is possible. Don’t allow others to create the fear that they know better; better than something higher and more profound at work in this process.  I was blessed because all my doctors gave the power to God/Higher power not to the medical world and statistics.




Emotional Health Tips For Your Pregnancy Over 35

By July 25, 2017 Featured Home, First-Time Expectant Mom Over 40, Popular Posts

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If you’re a first time expectant mother over 35 or over 40, sometimes— finding emotional support for your pregnancy can be as be as challenging as finding an American teenager who doesn’t own a cell phone!

The first words out of your doctor’s mouth upon confirming your pregnancy may not be congratulations but may be monologue filled with negative statistics about pregnancy after 35 which show an increased risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects. Or your doctor may suggest a series of tests available to older expectant moms or ask if your pregnancy was planned.

Unfortunately, this insensitiveness for pregnancy after 35 is not limited to some in the medical community. You may be hit with a variety of comments saying you’re too old to give birth or that you should consider your age when your baby goes to first- grade, becomes a teenager, gets married and so forth.  These comments can come from well-meaning relatives to friends to strangers.

How do you handle so much negativity during a time when you are most vulnerable?

1-Realize Pregnancy Hormones Are At Work

The first tip is to remember your pregnant body is undergoing hormone changes which not only affect you physically, but emotionally as well.

Translation: Comments you wouldn’t have given a second thought during your pre-pregnancy state can make you sad or angry during pregnancy. This is true whether you are an expectant mom age 22 or age 42.

Choose your thoughts wisely. Like a gardener who pulls the weeds out of her flowerbed, pull the negative thoughts from your mind. Replace them through concentration on positive and uplifting thoughts.

2- Find Moms Who Have Been Through What You’re Going Through

Having a supportive friend, ideally one who is a first time mom over 35, you can talk to about your ups and downs will be invaluable during this time. There are also online group of expectant moms over 35 and over 40. If the online groups don’t fit your style, establish your own or join our InSeason Mom group on Facebook. If you don’t like any of these choices, email me and I’ll give you encouragement!

3- Remember Medical Studies based on Group Not Individual Results

Medical studies citing the risk factors for pregnant women over 35 and 40 are based on the results of midlife pregnant women when studied as a group. The studies are not based on your individual health history. The truth is any pregnant woman of any age may experience high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects.

According to Dr. Glade B. Curtis, author of Your Pregnancy After 35,  today, many healthcare professionals gauge pregnancy risk by a pregnant woman health status not her age.

4- Follow Doctor’s Orders

Make every effort to follow the advice of your doctor which should include getting plenty of rest, eating healthy, refraining from smoking, drinking alcohol, and taking anything that is toxic to your body or your unborn child.

5- Embrace Mental and Spiritual Health

“People run their mouth” is one of my husband’s favorite sayings, which means everyone has an opinion. Opinions are not necessarily truth.

When well-meaning folks cite how old you will be when your baby enters first grade or goes to college, ask them how old you will be in the same length of time if you didn’t give birth. Hopefully, they’ll get the point. We grow older regardless if we pursue motherhood in our late 30s or 40s. Therefore, it’s important to make our lives count by pursuing our goals. Personally, I believe the adage, “Your life is a gift from God, what you do with it is your gift back to Him.”

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Tina Marie- Conceived Naturally 2 Babies After 40

By June 13, 2017 Blog, Featured Moms

Name: Tina Marie

Ages when you gave birth: 42 and 44

 State of residence: Arizona

Children:  Braylon, age 2 and Bryce- 3 months (Tina was pregnant with Bryce at the time of this interview.)

Current or former profession(s):  Actress, Events Manager, Nerium Consultant, Stay- At- Home Mommy


How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We weren’t trying either time. We were just enjoying life! We did not do any planning other than having a desire of our hearts.


How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor was very supportive, made me feel more comfortable and gave me hope when I was scared. This second time, I was shocked  when I found out I was pregnant.  I think the lady (doctor) seemed shocked as well!

What did you do to increase your chances of becoming pregnant a second time?

I never worked on increasing my chances except for prayer and taking prenatal pills after the first baby was born, while breastfeeding him.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors?

No, I kept the same one. I considered changing because my doctor was a part of a team and based on the day you deliver, my doctor may not have been available. The thought to switch occurred to me –a few times– just because I heard about another lady (doctor) who was so loving and I like that connection. Other than that, my doctor wanted me to have another baby right away. I laughed!


What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your first and current pregnancy?

Everyone was elated and some shocked. I recently shared on Facebook how I was overwhelmed by all the love and support from both near and far. My husband was definitely surprised and took some time to digest having another baby. I shared the news by giving him an empty can of Prego sauce with our names, Reg and Tina, on the outside of the can. Inside of the can was the picture of my 8 weeks ultrasound!



What do you remember most about the birth experience?

With my first birth experience, I remember going shopping in Target. My hubby was in car. I needed to use the restroom because of a surprised mucous plug breaking. I thought something was wrong. I called the doctor. Then, we (hubby and I) went on about our day with some relief. I fit in shopping at Sephora and a Pregnancy Photo Shoot!

My check-up was scheduled for the following morning. I was going to have to be induced or I needed to be dilated. I started crying and we went straight to the hospital. The rest is history except towards the end when I was challenged to start pushing. We prayed and the doctor advised me that “this next push had to be like an Olympic runner or we would have do alternative,” meaning a C- section.

I said to my husband and sisters, “Cheer me on guys!” My doctor said okay and brought the forceps team in. I was finished after that big strong push!

With my second birth experience, my doula was with my hubby Reggie and me. I believe having a doula made the experience even more joyful because Reggie was able to focus with me. My doula took pictures (of the birth).  She did things that I wasn’t able to do and see things I would not remember.  Reggie and my doula made my experience truly surreal and amazing.

I was checked in the hospital a week later (than my due date). I was in active labor for about 1 hour and 15 minutes. I was started on Pitocin when  I was at 4 cm. We had worship music playing.  We prayed as a team. My doula’s direction was so encouraging. The big surprise was when my contractions grew closer and closer, my doula told the nurse, without my knowing, that the doctor needed to come in. She told the nurse, “I do not want to have to deliver this baby.”

Even though the epidural was requested, the anesthesiologist was on his way but there was no turning back. I was unable to stop pushing. Our baby was ready.  I kept saying “where is the epidural.”

They said, “It’s showtime! He is coming out!”  At 12:54 PM, I gave a half a dozen pushes and our Lil Angel came out healthy and natural. Au natural! I couldn’t believe it! There was no way I thought I could endure this pain, but God knew.

We were blessed with a baby boy named Bryce, weighing  7.10 pounds and 21 inches.  For this I am truly grateful!

We stayed in the hospital a couple of days to recuperate and enjoy time alone before returning home. Hubby and big brother Braylon even stayed which made it one big slumber party and celebration of our 2nd little prince!


What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address this concern? 

The most that concerns me is being there to support my children later in their years. I believe it’s important to take care of myself and stay in shape. I want to live long with a youthful and healthy body, mind, and soul for my children. Anything is possible just depends on how you feel!

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I enjoy having more quality time to give my sons and living in a season where I am more mature. The quality time I have and the desire to raise another person is awesome.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I definitely have a new compassion for children. Because of the responsibility God has given me to raise strong children with a passion for life, I am less selfish and I give unconditional love to my children that I can see grow up in His likeness.  I am more settled and desire to play more,too.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

IMG_3929Be available, stay healthy, and have a heart of compassion to live life to the fullest. We are as old as we feel! Don’t act your age in all ways, only use wisdom with a youthful attitude. Be present and communicate your needs clearly.

Never give up! Life is precious.  Eat well, pray, have a support group, and get involved with other like- minded moms. Never give up because life is precious as gold and silver.  (Special thanks to this month’s blog post sponsor Heaven Sent Infant Wear-Infant Wear With A Spiritual Reflection)