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Conceive After 35 and 40- Food Tip

By August 10, 2019 Uncategorized

Eat Like A Pregnant Mom

I share this food tip from my experience and other women who conceived naturally after 35 and 40. Eat as if you are pregnant.

I don’t mean fulfilling the myth of the pregnant woman eating for two which involves consuming large food portions! Researchers say this type of overeating is unhealthy for the mother and baby.

In an article with WebMD, Julie Redfern, RD, LDN, a registered dietitian at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston says, “Many women who do ‘eat for two’ end up gaining an excessive amount of weight.”

How Much Nutrients

According to the article, you should increase the amount of certain nutrients. However, you need only about 300 more calories per day. Redfern says this is about the equivalent of “one slice of whole grain bread and one tablespoon of peanut butter.”

You increase your risk of gestational diabetes, backaches, high blood pressure, and other health problems for you and your baby, if you put on too much weight during pregnancy.

My Healthy Definition

My definition of eating healthier means cutting back on the sugary, salty snacks and eliminating soft drinks. You can add fruits that are naturally sweet like grapes, strawberries or cherries to your meals. 

The American Pregnancy Association recommends maintaining a diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and dairy products with the recommended dietary allowance of vitamins and minerals for proper reproductive functioning.

You should begin making healthy nutrition changes 3 months to a year before you conceive (Source: American Pregnancy Association) . Evidence shows that healthy nutrition and fertility is linked in both men and women. My translation: get your husband on board when you begin your nutritional journey.

You may not be pregnant yet, but you can start today eating as if you are carrying a child in your womb. The most important thing is to stay healthy so that you can deliver a healthy baby!

Emotional Health Tips For Your Pregnancy Over 35

By June 22, 2019 Uncategorized

Update: Pregnancy Over 35 and 40 Good News Live Support is open for Fall 2019! 

If you’re a first time expectant mother over 35 or over 40, sometimes— finding emotional support for your pregnancy can be as be as challenging as finding an American teenager who doesn’t own a cell phone!

The first words out of your doctor’s mouth upon confirming your pregnancy may not be congratulations but may be monologue filled with negative statistics about pregnancy after 35 which show an increased risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects. Or your doctor may suggest a series of tests available to older expectant moms or ask if your pregnancy was planned.

Unfortunately, this insensitiveness for pregnancy after 35 is not limited to some in the medical community. You may be hit with a variety of comments saying you’re too old to give birth or that you should consider your age when your baby goes to first- grade, becomes a teenager, gets married and so forth.  These comments can come from well-meaning relatives to friends to strangers.

How do you handle so much negativity during a time when you are most vulnerable?

1-Realize Pregnancy Hormones Are At Work

The first tip is to remember your pregnant body is undergoing hormone changes which not only affect you physically, but emotionally as well.

Translation: Comments you wouldn’t have given a second thought during your pre-pregnancy state can make you sad or angry during pregnancy. This is true whether you are an expectant mom age 22 or age 42.

Choose your thoughts wisely. Like a gardener who pulls the weeds out of her flowerbed, pull the negative thoughts from your mind. Replace them through concentration on positive and uplifting thoughts.

2- Find Moms Who Have Been Through What You’re Going Through

Having a supportive friend, ideally one who is a first time mom over 35, you can talk to about your ups and downs will be invaluable during this time. There are also online groups of expectant moms over 35 and over 40. If the online groups don’t fit your style, establish your own or join our InSeason Mom group on Facebook. If you don’t like any of these choices, email me and I’ll give you encouragement!

3- Remember Medical Studies based on Group Not Individual Results

Medical studies citing the risk factors for pregnant women over 35 and 40 are based on the results of midlife pregnant women when studied as a group. The studies are not based on your individual health history. The truth is any pregnant woman of any age may experience high blood pressure, diabetes, cesarean birth and chromosomal defects.

According to Dr. Glade B. Curtis, author of Your Pregnancy After 35,  today, many healthcare professionals gauge pregnancy risk by a pregnant woman health status not her age.

4- Follow Doctor’s Orders

Make every effort to follow the advice of your doctor which should include getting plenty of rest, eating healthy, refraining from smoking, drinking alcohol, and taking anything that is toxic to your body or your unborn child.

5- Embrace Mental and Spiritual Health

“People run their mouth” is one of my husband’s favorite sayings, which means everyone has an opinion. Opinions are not necessarily truth.

When well-meaning folks cite how old you will be when your baby enters first grade or goes to college, ask them how old you will be in the same length of time if you didn’t give birth. Hopefully, they’ll get the point. We grow older regardless if we pursue motherhood in our late 30s or 40s. Therefore, it’s important to make our lives count by pursuing our goals. Personally, I believe the adage, “Your life is a gift from God, what you do with it is your gift back to Him.”

Jill Jonas-First Time Mom Over 35 After Wrong Diagnosis

By April 20, 2019 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms, Getting Pregnant After 35 and 40, Popular Posts, Uncategorized

Name: Jill Jonas

Age when you gave birth: 36

Child’s name : Dean

Current or former profession(s): I have worked abroad quite a bit (Egypt, Dubai, Mexico) and international business is my career passion. Since living in New York, I work for a medical device company.

PREGNANCY

How long were you trying to get pregnant? 

We were very fortunate and got pregnant right away in the first month we tried. We decided to try for a late spring/summer birth month and voilá! I thought it would take a couple of months at least.

However, it wasn’t completely smooth sailing at the beginning. We had two doctors tell us we weren’t pregnant and that we’d had a chemical pregnancy! Although I knew something was happening, we were in limbo for about two weeks. Finally, the HGC blood test (it test your levels 48 hours apart) results came back. My levels were rising nicely. Okay, I thought to myself, so we ARE pregnant and then glorious 9 months followed.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?

We did not take my age into consideration when we were trying to conceive. It was pretty simple – I knew my cycle and we had a time frame to try. What we did not do is stress.

On another note: When I thought that we had a chemical pregnancy, it opened my eyes to how much time and effort getting pregnant could really take, as well as the emotions involved. I am very grateful to have had this realization. It makes me appreciate Dean even more.

SUPPORT

Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

My doctor is the one who joked with me about the AMA(advanced maternal age) he had to put after my name on my charts. He said, “for NYC you’re a baby”. So, that’s very supportive, I guess!

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I changed doctors before we conceived. I was not happy with other OBGYN’s I had gone to previously in the city. My GP (general practitioner) recommended Dr. Andrew Scheinfeld and he only takes patients who are pregnant or trying. He is an expert at pregnancy and delivering babies – which is what I wanted and what I got!

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

My in-laws were elated and surprised. We put t-shirts on our niece and nephew with the words “number one cousins” on the front with our due date on the back. It took them a while and a little encouragement to realize what those shirts meant. Once they realized what it meant, they were ecstatic. Nothing was ever said about my age.

Jill & Baby-3

When we surprised my mother, I learned something that day. She came to New York (I’m from St Louis and that’s where most of my family lives) to visit and to celebrate her birthday with Josh (my husband) and me.  When we decided to tell her the news,  I made her a birthday cake and wrote “#1 Grandma” on it. We walked out and presented her with the cake. She was so surprised, but then noticed what was written on top.

She thought we were making fun of her age and just calling her a grandma! It turns out she wasn’t expecting me to have children.  She thought I was just focused on career and other things. Once she realized that I was pregnant, she teared up and was so happy. Even though she wanted grandchildren very much, she did not burden me with that pressure. and I am very thankful for that. I am even more thankful that she is now a Grandmother, Grammy T!

On another note, anyone who has children later in life risks losing someone close to them before it can happen. I lost my father 3 years ago to cancer. Every day I think about how he would be as a grandfather, but it wasn’t meant to be. He never put any pressure on me to have children, either. I’m sure that if he had seen “Grandpa” on his cake, I would have learned something that day, too.

Labor and Delivery

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

Luckily I remember everything. I’m not THAT old! Since we did not know the gender, the best part was hearing, “it’s a boy” and then seeing this amazing little boy held before us, behind the clear curtain. I had a gentle C- section. Dean was breech for almost the entire pregnancy. My husband and I felt like we already knew the little guy the moment we laid eyes on him!

 I AM MOM 

What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

Having a second child. I don’t think I will have time to mentally prepare for that, before it is a little too late. Another concern is one that any parent has, being around for them as long as possible.  This motivates me to stay fit and healthy.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I’m just enjoying being a mom! You cannot truly describe the feelings it brings or the experience with words. It’s the best thing I have ever had the privilege to do.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

Everything has a bit more meaning. Also, I’m much better utilizing the time that I have everyday. It’s hard to procrastinate these days!

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Don’t read (focus) too much into what you read about– articles like if it is the best time for you to try for a family or to add to your family. Do it your way and don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should fear.

Jill & Baby -2

Natural Pregnancy for First Time Mom/Mum Over 40

By February 3, 2019 Blog, Featured Moms, First-Time Expectant Mom Over 40, Uncategorized

In this interview, first time mum/mom over 40 Natalie (pictured above with her son) of the UK shares why natural pregnancy was the only option for her and her husband.

Name: Natalie

Age you gave birth: 42

State/Country of residence: UK

Child’s name and age: Ralph – 1 years old

Current or former profession(s): Assistant Producer (Broadcast Television); currently a Stay-at-Home Mum

Social Media:
https://twitter.com/UneagerMother  

https://twitter.com/Natalie_Orchard

THE JOURNEY TO PREGNANCY

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

I was on the contraceptive pill from the age of 17. I never had a break from it; I was on it continuously. I stopped taking the contraceptive pill in March 2016 and fell pregnant just over a year later in April 2017.

I have many friends who have had trouble falling pregnant or staying pregnant, and friends who have had IVF treatment. My husband and I knew from the word go that if it did not happen for us naturally, then we would not go down the IVF route. We felt it (the IVF route) was physically and mentally draining. We also didn’t want to become one of those couples who obsess about getting pregnant. We were determined to not let it take over our lives, or indeed, our sex lives as we felt it then becomes unhealthy.

After 9 months of not being on the contraceptive pill and no sign of pregnancy, I decided to book an appointment at my doctors,
something I had not done before, to at least see if I was fertile. It should be noted that my husband had a fertility test prior to me coming off the pill. We felt that if he wasn’t fertile, then there was not point in us trying. For some, this may seem very black and white, but every couple has their limitations and starting points. I suppose for us, that was ours. My husband’s sperm count was normal.

In the UK, some fertility treatment before the age of 40, is free on our National Health Service however, over the age of 40, it is not. This was pointed out to me when I visited the doctor and I explained that that was fine as I wouldn’t want to go down that route any way. So in January 2017, I engaged in a series of initial routine fertility tests and it was at the very last one, which involved an internal examination. The nurse asked me the date of my last period? I said, ” the 21st March”. She nearly fell off her chair as it was the 2nd May at this point! She suggested I go take a pregnancy test. So I did. It was positive!

SUPPORT DURING PREGNANCY

First Time Mom Over 40 Natalie with son Ralph

Medical Community

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

The doctors I saw during my pregnancy were extremely supportive. I did ask to not see a particular doctor again during a routine check-up as I found her manner somewhat condescending and a little rude. This was not a problem and I was assigned a fabulous doctor who stayed with me throughout my pregnancy and postnatal too.

In the UK, there is a schedule of midwife appointments you have to attend throughout your entire pregnancy. Every midwife I saw was absolutely brilliant, supportive, knowledgeable and offered excellent advice. Due to my age, I had additional appointments including one with a consultant to monitor me and my baby. He was supportive and always answered the questions we had. I felt that me and my baby were very cared for.

Family and Friends

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

It’s probably a slight understatement to say that my friends and family were shocked when I told them I was pregnant. No one knew we were even trying to conceive or that I had had a series of tests done. I never wanted the added pressure of people asking me “how things were going” on the pregnancy/baby-making front. Plus I think it is a very private matter and not one up for discussion! In addition, most people who know me thought I never wanted children, so I think that added to the total surprise when I told them I was!!

I only told my bestest friends and our parents after our 12 week scan, and then they were sworn to secrecy. We only really started telling people when I started to show around 5 months. One set of friends saw me at a wedding when I was 6 months pregnant and didn’t even notice!

LABOR AND DELIVERY EXPERIENCE

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

First Time Mom Over 40 Natalie in pool with baby Ralph

I had the most amazing pregnancy. I kept fit, went running, walked my dog and I even rode my horse up until 10 days before I gave birth! On New Year’s Eve, 2017, I had a ‘show’ at 10.30am. I made my husband come with me to the stables to muck out my horse before my waters broke or the contractions started.

Long story short, around 6pm, my contractions started kicking in and over the course of about 3 hours. l managed to go 8 centimeters dilated at home with no pain relief. When we got to the hospital and the midwife checked me, they whisked me off to a birthing room. They got the birthing pool ready, as that was my wish, to have my baby in a birthing pool.

All seemed to be going well and I was coping really well and managing the pain. However, sadly when my waters did finally break, it was in the birthing pool. The midwife noticed the water had gone a greenly color meaning that my baby had excreted inside me. So I had to get out of the pool.

Over the course of another 12 hours (I’d opted for an epidural after a couple more hours), I only managed to go another 1.5 centimeters dilated. They discovered that my baby was actually back-to-back with his chin up and not tucked in. Around 9.00am on New Year’s Day, a consultant came to speak to me and my husband about our options. It seemed very likely that I would need an emergency C-section.

I’m not going to lie, that was my worst fear, and me and my husband sobbed whilst we digested the information we were given and the risks that were involved. Ralph was born by C-section at 11.25am. I don’t remember much about it as they had to sedate me quite heavily to stitch me back up as my stomach muscles were so tight. Nevertheless, he was out safely!

I’M A MUM/MOM!

Do you have any concerns about being a mom over 40? If so, how do you address these concerns?

First Time Mom Over 40 Natalie reading to son Ralph

Honestly, no! I don’t have any concerns about being a mum over 40, as I feel I have so much to offer my son BECAUSE I am over 40.

What do you enjoy most about being a first time mom over 40?

I feel so lucky to have a gorgeous son. I realize now that children are the greatest gift of all. I feel that because I had my son later in life, I have been able to live my life to the full up until this point. And, he is the next, most remarkable chapter!

I have had 4 different careers up until I had him. I feel I would not have been able to do if I’d have had him when I was younger. I feel more financially stable, more confident, mature and feel quite happy ‘winging’ motherhood. Ralph is so much fun and we have the best time doing lots of different things: meeting other mums and babies, attending baby groups and classes, experiencing things I never knew I would. It’s great!

How has becoming a mom changed you?

I think if you asked my family and close friends how becoming a mum has changed me, they would definitely say it has had a calming effect on me. Whilst Ralph and I are always out doing something or as a family (including our pets) we’re always busy. I’m definitely not as wild or as manic as I used to be. Having children definitely makes you put things into perspective and makes you focus on the really important things in life.

Also, as I had post-natal depression, I think I really appreciate everything I have and everyone who supported me and my family unit during that dark time. And weirdly, since becoming a mum, I love my husband even more than I did before. He is so supportive and is a wonderful father to our son.

BECOMING A MUM/MOM AFTER 40 ADVICE

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 40?

If you wish to ‘live your years’ before having children, then I see no problem with having a baby over 40, as long as you are fit and healthy. And as they say, age is merely a number!

I know I would never have been up to the job if I had done it when I was younger. As an older mum, I feel more confident in the decisions I have to make as they are based on experience and wisdom.

I may have had 4 different careers but this, this is the best job ever!

Baby Ralph's celebrating 1st birthday

InSeason Mom Cynthia thanks Natalie for encouraging women across the globe by sharing her pregnancy and birth story as a first time mum/mom over 40. If you would like to share your story as a first time mom over 35 or 40, please email inseasonmom@gmail.com

Pregnancy Over 35 Over 40-Good News Support

By January 31, 2019 Featured Home, Uncategorized

What is Good News Support for Pregnancy Over 35 and 40?  

“It’s live emotional support provided by me for older expectant moms, ” says Cynthia, former childbirth educator and founder of InSeason Mom who married at 40, conceived naturally, gave birth at 42 and 44 to healthy babies.”

“I don’t tell women to wait until they are 35 to become pregnant, but I do provide support. I can relate to the doubts an older expectant mom is feeling,” says Cynthia.

“My goal is to dispel the negative opinion-based information about pregnancy after 35 and to help women have emotional support as they work with their physicians to ensure the best health care possible!”

The 4-week live support includes:

-30 minutes of emotional support via telephone for 4 consecutive weeks 

-Email support for 4 consecutive weeks

-Action steps to help overcome your fears of becoming a mom after 35 or 40

-Information to dispel your misconceptions about motherhood in your 40s

-A good news story about a first time mom over 35 emailed weekly

Who benefits from Pregnancy Over 35 Over 40 Good News Support?

Expectant mothers over 35 who are in their second trimester of pregnancy, and women who are trying to conceive.  

How will Pregnancy Over 35 Over 40 Good News Support Help Ease My Motherhood Fears?

There’s not an expectant mom alive who hasn’t experienced some anxiety about her baby. As an expectant mom over 35, you’re hit with a double dose of anxiety. You worry about your baby’s health and you worry about the role your age will play once the baby arrives. You wonder if all the bad news about becoming a first time mom over 35 is true.

In this support program, you will learn the truth about popular misconceptions about birth and motherhood after 35 and even 40. You’ll discover tips to help combat your fears and help gain confidence.

Does the live support take the place of psychotherapy, professional counseling or medical advice?

No, this live support is exclusively for emotional support and doesn’t take the place of psychotherapy or professional counseling.  It doesn’t constitute or is a substitution for medical advice from your physician or health care professional.

The information Cynthia provides is necessarily selective and deals with only some of the issues you may wish to consider as an expectant mom over 35 or 40.

What is the cost for Pregnancy Over 35 Over 40 Good News Support?

The cost is only $375 for the 4- week live support with Cynthia. Once you purchase the support, Cynthia will email you to arrange an agreed upon time and date to start your live support. 


Let’s Talk Support-1 Hour

Not ready to commit to a 4-week live support coaching? Just want to talk to a woman who understands your fears or concerns about pregnancy after 35?  Consider Let’s Talk support from Cynthia  for one-hour. The cost is $70.


Questions about Pregnancy Over 35 Over 40 Support?

Email: inseasonmom@gmail.com or cynthia@inseasonmom.org

Rachel Demas Mom Over 40 After 2 Miscarriages

By August 7, 2018 Blog, Featured Home, Featured Moms

 

Name: Rachel Demas

Age when you gave birth: 44

State of residence: New York

Child’s name: Claire

Current profession: Freelance Writer/Editor

PREGNANCY

How long were you trying to get pregnant?

We tried for about a year and a half. I got pregnant fairly quickly for the first time, but had a miscarriage at 13 weeks. We followed our doctor’s advice, and took about a six month break after my miscarriage. I got pregnant a second time about two months after we started trying again, but I lost that pregnancy at five weeks. We didn’t wait following that loss, and I became pregnant with our daughter, Claire, around three months later.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?

I went to a fertility specialist to make sure everything was in working order. The doctor said that I checked out fine. In fact, he practically gushed when he saw how many eggs I had on the ultrasound. He told me that he had thirty-year-old patients who would be quote “jealous” of my “egg supply”. While I was happy to hear the good news, his comment also made me really uncomfortable. I wish that he had managed to relay that information in a manner that was more matter-of-fact.

SUPPORT 

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

In general, I think the term “geriatric pregnancy” needs to go. I found that the medical community has a tendency to lead with that age-based assessment, and see you through this lens throughout your pregnancy. Specifically, though, I felt incredibly supported by the midwife, Barri Malek, who delivered our baby. The unfortunate thing was that there were four midwives in the practice, and I saw each of them during routine check-ups. I didn’t feel as supported by them, because they could be quite doom and gloom about all of the complications that can happen when you are pregnant past a certain age (none of the complications happened to my baby or me).

My husband and I were hoping that Barri would deliver our baby, because of her positive attitude. But we weren’t able to choose a specific midwife from the practice. Basically, the policy at the birthing center was that when a woman goes into labor, the midwife who is on duty that week delivers her baby.

Indeed, we hit the jackpot and went into labor when Barri was on duty. My labor went like clockwork (eight hours), but we had two complications during delivery (neither of which was likely due to my age). Claire had a shoulder dystocia, which Barri nimbly fixed with no harm to our daughter. More concerning, I had a postpartum hemorrhage, which could have been life-threatening. I lost about two liters of blood.

Barri stopped the bleeding, and I feel that I owe my life to her. Later, she told me that she attributes her expertise in postpartum hemorrhages to her time spent delivering babies in Indonesia, something I highly doubt many traditional doctors could boast.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I was originally with an obstetrician, who referred to me as a “geriatric pregnancy” at our first appointment. I wasn’t thrilled with our rapport with her, but she seemed smart, knowledgeable and experienced. We went to her until I was eight months pregnant, when we decided to look elsewhere. It was not a decision that my husband and I took lightly, but I was committed to having a natural birth if I was able with as few interventions as possible, and we came to feel that our obstetrician would not be as amenable to this idea as we had originally thought. It was hard to be so close to the end of my pregnancy without having everything in place (or a place to go. I joked that I felt like Mary looking for a place at the inn!)

But at my eight month check-up, my husband and I asked our obstetrician if we could start talking about a birth plan. At the mere mention of the words “birth plan”, she became incredibly strident.  Before we could even get into any specifics about what we had in mind, she told us that quote “she was the captain of the ship” and that “if we didn’t like that, we could leave her practice now.” The thought bubble over my head was “I thought the baby was the captain of the ship not you”. But I didn’t see the point of getting into an argument with someone who, clearly, had ideas that were different from ours, so I said ok and left.

That day, I started looking for another place to give birth. I found a birthing center, which was farther away from our house than we had wanted. But it turned out to be the best decision we have ever made, because I was able to give birth to my daughter naturally like I had wanted.

It’s funny how situations that are extremely stressful and trying can sometimes end up being the best thing that could have ever happened to you! I have ended up feeling thankful to the obstetrician for, basically, giving us the boot from her practice! Also, I attribute my willingness to leave her practice to the wisdom of age.

As I have grown older, I have learned to trust my own instincts and to push through the fear of not knowing what was going to happen. I think that, if I had been a younger version of myself, I probably would have believed that the doctor knew best and stayed with her out of fear of making a wrong decision.

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?

Everyone was extremely thrilled.

LABOR AND DELIVERY

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

Of course, seeing my baby for the first time was the most memorable and amazing part of giving birth. Probably every woman feels that way, but it has special meaning when you become a mom after a certain age. You aren’t given much hope that you will have a baby, so you have a tremendous sense of God’s grace in this gift. Also, when you are pregnant after a certain age, you are told that there can and probably will be complications from beginning to end. Until you see your baby for the first time, you aren’t sure whether you or your baby will be a casualty of poor statistics. So when I saw Claire, it was a moment of great joy about life’s abundance and the power of surrendering to the unknown, as well as incredible relief that we had made it safely to the end.

I’M A MOM

What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?

I definitely have less energy than I did when I was in my 20’s or early 30’s. I think I am a more tired mom than I would have been, if I had had my daughter earlier. I have an earlier bedtime now, so that I feel rested enough to keep up with my busy, busy daughter! I also worry about how old I will be when she is in high school and beyond. Watching her grow and learn and experience life is the greatest joy I have ever had. I, greedily, want to go on seeing her life unfold for as long as I can. I know that, at some point, I will leave this earth and leave her. Odds are that it will be much earlier than I would like. But, really, no one has guarantees, so I try to live each day without dwelling on my mortality too much. Some days it’s easier than others to do so!

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I have more of a sense of self now than I did when I was younger. I feel more grounded, which allows me to let my relationship with Claire be more about what’s best for her than what I want or need. Basically, I like to think of it like a tree. I am firmly planted in the ground, yet, when the wind blows, I am flexible and can bend. When I was younger, there would have been a greater chance that I would have just plain old broke! I’m by no means a “grand old oak”, but I’m trying!

Rachel-2-jpg

 How has becoming a mom changed you?

Being a mom requires an amount of sacrifice that I’ve never experienced before having Claire. Surrendering to that kind of selflessness is both challenging and rewarding. It’s not always easy, but it’s an incredible gift about what it means to be in relationship to another human being. The “I and Thou” relationship takes on a new and powerful meaning that is extremely beautiful.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Oh, don’t get me started on this question! I have so much to say about how necessary it is to ignore the bad statistics and cultural messages surrounding becoming pregnant and having a baby after a certain age. We are individuals, not statistics. Every woman is entitled to her own journey around having a baby, regardless of what other people believe or what the statistics say about her age. Indeed, I have so much to say that I will refer your readers to a post that I wrote about it on my own personal blog, because I’m too tired and busy from caring for a four year old to write it all over again here! http://taoofpoop.blogspot.com/2013/09/my-geriatric-pregnancy.html

Publisher Cynthia’s note: I originally published Rachel’s encouraging story in June 2015. If you’re a mom who gave birth over 35 or 40 to your first baby, I would love to share your story as a Featured Mom. Contact me for details at inseasonmom@gmail.com