University of Huddersfield (2012, September 3). Late motherhood: A selfish choice?. ScienceDaily. Retrieved September 19, 2012
Delayed Mothehood: A Selfish Choice?
When women give birth in their late thirties or in their forties, it is not necessarily the result of a lifestyle choice — putting off motherhood for career reasons or from a desire to “have it all.” Nor should they be accused of selfishness or taking undue health risks. Kirsty Budds, psychologist and study findings featured in Science News http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/09/120903143056.htm
If you’ve read my blog for longer than a minute or visited the website, you know that I seldom watch or listen to any television or radio program that features giving birth after 35 or 40. Most of them seem to have one agenda: show that women who give birth after 35 are selfish, too career-focused, put themselves and unborn children at risk.
Since the inception of InSeason Mom in October 2005, I have met (online or across the telephone) scores of first time moms over 35 and 40. I have never met one who intentionally waited to have a baby until she was over 35. While I was pleased to read Psychologist Budds’ findings, I was not surprised. The media’s portrayal of older moms is so far from the truth that they might as well be talking about women who live on the planet Pluto. (Think about that one for a moment and you’ll get it. )
I believe education is one of the key components in erasing ignorance about a people, a thing or an idea. I welcome more objective (updated) research on first time moms in their late thirties or in their forties. I have little doubt that research will find the following statement by Psychologist Budds accurate:
“For a lot of women it (motherhood after 40) isn’t a selfish choice but is based around careful decisions, careful negotiations and life circumstances such as the right partner and the right financial position.”