Name: Anita Anderson
State of residence: California
Children’s names and ages: Ethan 8 years old & Chantel 24 years old
Current profession: Owner/Web Developer ACA Web Consulting
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
I was trying three months.
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
I had suffered a miscarriage 3 months prior to conceiving. I started on herbal teas of red raspberry leaf, red clover, nettle and dandelion. I supported my pregnancy with Vitex extract and progesterone cream.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
My doctor and midwives were very supportive. I opted out of a lot of the ‘advanced maternal age’ testing and they were respectful of my choices.
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
I did not. My doctors office was made up of midwives and medical doctors. I loved them. I was also seeing a homebirth midwife because we had wanted a homebirth. The collaboration of both practices was great.
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?
‘Are you crazy?’ ‘You’re starting over again now?’ ‘You’re going to be old when he grows up.’ That last one was from my 16 year old daughter.
Labor and Delivery
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
I was very educated and aware of my options and choices. I wanted a homebirth and was working with a homebirth midwife as well as my doctors. My little man was due October 4th but was taking his time. I finally went into labor on October 25. I had meconium in my water when it broke so we headed to the hospital. Due to fetal distress, he was delivered healthy via emergency c-section. The emergency part was alarming and not very fun, but he came out healthy and screaming . The recuperation process was very quick. I left the hospital before they were ready to discharge me!
I’M A MOM
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
Initially after my son was born I didn’t have any like-minded moms in my life to commiserate with. All my friends had children who were almost ready to graduate high school. I tried playgroups but the moms I met were closer to my daughter’s age than mine. So I started an over 35 moms meetup in San Diego county. It really helped having support and like-minded women to be around; women who cherished being a mom later in life. Through that group I have made lifetime friends and we’ve watched our children grow up together. I am so grateful this little boy was placed in my life as a gift!
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
Having wisdom from being on this earth for 50+ years and being able to cherish my son with that wisdom.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
Going through mothering a young child again is wonderful. The things that I fussed over as a 27 year old first time mom have lost their hold on me and my parenting. I have been given a gift of blessing this little soul with direction and care and I couldn’t be more thankful. He brings joy, excitement and fullness to my life.
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
Don’t believe all the fear mongering of having a child later in life. Many of the AMA (advanced maternal age) tests have lots of false positives. Get educated, look into alternative medicine for your pregnancy and thereafter in your child rearing. Most of the older moms I know are some of the most grounded, wonderful women because of their life experiences.