Age when you gave birth: 36
State of residence: Missouri
Child’s name and age: Ryan, age 8
Current or former profession(s): Speech-Language Pathologist, Blogger http://www.cremescometrue.com/
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
We weren’t trying at the time.
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 35?
I didn’t do anything. Not long before I became pregnant with Ryan, I had a miscarriage. That experience made me not want to try to get pregnant again. So, I was quite shocked when I got a positive result on a home pregnancy test.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
I was extremely nervous about getting pregnant so soon after miscarriage, and I had many questions for my doctor. He and his staff were PHENOMENAL, taking each of my concerns seriously and going above and beyond to calm my fears.
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors?
Nope, wouldn’t have even thought about it!
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?
I think we were all in shock! Of course everyone was thrilled, but really surprised.
LABOR AND DELIVERY
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
I had a C-Section, and honestly, I remember looking at Ryan who was to my right with a nurse and my husband. Once I knew he was OK, I knew I needed to focus on me. I felt very weak, like I could pass out. I have a strong memory of talking myself into staying conscious. And I did! Once I did this, since I had no complications, I was quickly on my way to holding Ryan for the first time.
I AM MOM!
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
His energy level is beyond amazing. Now at 45, I have an eight-year-old boy to keep up with, and it’s not always easy. I try to always remember that he is keeping me active, and maybe even keeping me feeling young.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
I feel like I have much better advice to share with my son than I would have in my 20’s. There’s a lot to be said for the value of life experience.
How has becoming a mom changed you? Suddenly, I became last on my list of priorities. Since becoming a mom, I have to make a point to move myself to the top of the list now and then.
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
Motherhood at any age has its own set of challenges. No matter what your age, it will change your life. If you want it, go for it!