Age when you gave birth: 42
State of residence: Florida
Child: a daughter
Current or former profession(s): Assistant Principal turned stay at home, blogging, future homeschooling, super mom with a cape around my neck and an “S” on my chest. J
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
I actually was not trying, and was led to believe by doctors that it was not possible for me to have children.
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
I didn’t knowingly do anything. For the last several years I have been mostly eating healthy and exercising, but nothing out of the ordinary.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
I was very lucky to have found a doctor who also gave birth after 40. It was a blessing to receive encouraging advice and awesome prenatal care. When I first started going to this doctor I was told that I needed to rotate through all of the doctors in the practice to familiarize myself with them in the event I gave birth and my preferred doctor was not on call.
There were two male doctors on staff, and one of them was a complete jerk. Everything from his mouth was negative. He repeatedly called my pregnancy a high-risk pregnancy when I had no health issues, and a healthy genetic background report. On one particular visit he started talking about low birth weight and high miscarriage rates in “older” moms. I cut him off and told him not to say another word to me. I also told him that he seriously needed to reconsider his profession because he clearly had issues!
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
I stayed with my preferred doctor, and refuse to see the other doctors in the rotation. It was a blessing that my preferred doctor was on call the day my daughter was born.
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?
Most of them were very happy for me. Regardless, I was so excited that it really didn’t matter.
LABOR AND DELIVERY
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
My daughter was a C-section baby. I remember being told to expect a lot of pressure. I was waiting for the pressure when I heard my daughter’s crying out very healthy lungs.
I’M A MOM!
What concerns you most about being a mom over 40 and how do you address these concerns?
I think I was most concerned about my energy level and being the oldest mom on the playground. To address these concerns, I started exercising again, dropped the extra weight and found a 40+ new moms group on MeetUp.com. As for the age thing, I don’t let it bother me. I have a beautiful and healthy little girl.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
I don’t accept the “older” mom titles. I run around, play, wrestle, and enjoy every minute with my angel. Our favorite thing to do is to run around the beach collecting shells. We save them for art projects.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
Being a single mom has taught me to love with every inch of my heart, to smile until my face hurts, and to laugh until tears fall from my eyes!
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35 or 40?
Do it! If you have no major reasons holding you back, go for it! Don’t ask for or except unsolicited advice or comments, and distance yourself from anyone who does not respect or support your decision. It’s also important to join a support group with other 35+ moms. You will be glad that you did!
Do you have any additional comments?
Do not be afraid to advocate for yourself. If you find that your doctor is one of many clinging on to the “It’s too risky to have a baby after 35” song and dance, find another doctor! Before you do, ask him or her how they explain the increase of 40 plus women having healthy babies. Ask the doctor if he/she has facts to support this mindset and how or why does it apply to you! Do not be scared into genetic testing or any other testing that is “highly” recommended for “older” moms. As with anything, do your research and form your own opinions. Most importantly think positively and enjoy your pregnancy, birth, and life as a new mommy!