Ages you gave birth: 38 and 41
State of residence: Michigan
Children name : Xavier and Layla
Current profession: IT Professional
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
I began taking prenatal vitamins and folic acid. Also, I made more attempts to eat cleaner.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
When I become pregnant, they were very supportive and made sure I had all the information I needed for a healthy pregnancy and birth.
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
No, I did not. My doctors would always make sure I knew the older I became that there was more chance of birth defects. As health professionals, I would expect nothing less of them, making sure I was aware of the risks. But they were always supportive and never made me feel as if I was making a bad decision to have a child later in life.
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?
Excited! My family had been waiting. When I announced my first pregnancy it was during Thanksgiving, so there was more family around. Everyone was overjoyed.
LABOR AND DELIVERY
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
The thing I remember the most about my birth experience is hearing the first cry of my babies. It was the most beautiful, refreshing sound. Both times I cried out of joy that my babies entered the world happy and healthy.
I’M A MOM!
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
Most of my concerns are social. I am guessing there are more women in my area over 35 with children than I realize, but there is a difficulty in connecting with that population.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
I am more patient and overall, I just enjoy spending time with my children.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
I no longer sweat the small stuff. I realize some things are just not important or worth my energy. My focus is my family.
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
I have a friend right now who just turned 35 and does not have children. I make sure she knows it’s possible and she shouldn’t be concerned about what others say. You have to do things on your own time. Motherhood is a major undertaking not to be entered under duress. So take the time you want or need to plan your life to prepare for your child (ren).