Age when you gave birth: 43
State of residence: London, England
Child’s name: Alexander (son)
Current or former profession(s): Former Banker
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
After three miscarriages (all due to chromosomal issues), I went through one cycle of IVF to try to screen out any eggs that were not viable. Luckily, it worked the first time.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
Extremely, although one scanner did use the term “Geriatric Maternal Age” on my form, which horrified me!
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
No, my medical care was superb.
Family and Friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?
All of them were overjoyed. I sort of did everything fashionably late in life; I only got married at forty, so having a baby at forty three seemed very natural to me. It was now or never!
LABOR and DELIVERY
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
I had a cesarean, but because my son was covered in such a thick layer of slippery vernix, the doctor still had to use forceps to get him out. My son howled loudly of course, but the second they placed him on my chest, he went completely silent. I was stunned at the power of our immediate connection with each other. My entire life and my priorities completely shifted in that one second; it really changed me. That exact second is when I became a mother.
I AM MOM!
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
I want to be vibrant and healthy and be a part of my son’s life for as long as possible of course. So I eat very healthy and I go to the gym four times a week. I take extra care of my health. I probably wouldn’t take such extra care if I weren’t a mother over 35.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
Because I had my career first, I have the time to really focus on my son. I’ve had a life full of travel and intensive work, so it feels like a luxury to look after my son, rather than a chore. I have the maturity to enjoy the ‘moments’ instead of trying to juggle too much.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
I was never a worrier, but I am now! I don’t second-guess my decisions concerning his well-being; I really listen to my gut and I know the right things to do for him. I didn’t know that kind of mothering was innate in me, but it definitely is.
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
Nutrition is absolutely everything; it is the foundation of your health and of your baby’s health. If you want to create another body, you have to make sure yours is as healthy and nourished as possible. After several miscarriages, I also did a lot of meditation in my pregnancy to stay relaxed and stress-free instead of worrying about another unpreventable miscarriage.
InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Lisa for sharing her story! (Download my quick-read guide offering 30+ POSITIVE tips to cope while trying to conceive (after age 35) in your 40s https://gumroad.com/l/hfaIs )